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David Deangelo Mastery With Women DVD Review

2010-10-27T09:58:00.000-07:00

David Deangelo Mastery With Women DVD Review

This program acts as one of the cornerstones in the community of improving your life with women and dating. This is NOT a pickup guide. It focuses much more on inner game rather than techniques. However, David D. does throw out some of his favorite lines and techniques. I watched this program 2 or 3 years ago, and remember thinking “wow, that was so impactful, how could it get any better than this program?” Well, I was right, the program was one of the best, if not THE best program to date if you were looking for inner game and less about the lines, openers and stories, and more about improving your dating life, and yourself as a person, and a man.

HOWEVER, David Deangelo stunned me when he kept producing products like Man Transformations and others that really exceeded this program. Not to say that this program isn’t awesome, because it is, but David Deangelo is a student of his own mastery, and I hope that he will keep improving his life and his programs!

I give this program two big thumbs up. It’s long, composed of 10 DVDs and a workbook, but man is it impactful. Man Transformations is similar, but much more expensive. In fact, this program is NOT for sale from David Deangelo anymore (as far as I know), and can only be obtained second hand. But, don’t worry, I can help with that!

You’ve just read something you will rarely see anywhere else- an HONEST review. There are many great products to help you improve your dating life, and success with women, but not all products are created equally. I want you to get the most bang for your buck and only get the best products. In fact, I’m going to take it one step further and show you where to get up to 90% off many of the recommended products. You can check out Ebay and get this program dirt cheap.

Your Success,
Brittan Benz

P.S. If you want the best bang for your buck, I’d definitely signup for my free e-course where I discuss some of the most potent principles I’ve learned from personal experience and the best principles from $4,739+ worth of products I’ve personally viewed and own! I discuss topics like:

· Eliminating fear of rejection
· How raw attraction really works with women and what 97% of men will NEVER know about women
· 5 deadly mistakes men will almost always make on dates
· Why women act angry, upset, and dramatic, and how you can take control of the situation
· How to flirt using eye contact and body language
· How to make women approach YOU
· The BEST date ideas that won’t cost you a dime
· The 7 personality traits that naturally attract women and how to develop them and put yourself on autopilot attractive male mode!

Keep Checking Back For More Reviews & Articles. My Free Email Report Coming Soon!

David Deangelo Double Your Dating Book Review

2010-08-30T10:34:00.000-07:00

David Deangelo Double Your Dating Ebook Review

The beginning of the David Deangelo revolution. In 2001, David Deangelo released the first copy of Double Your Dating. It’s a simple little ebook that outlines his experiences with women and dating. This was the first piece of material I ever read, followed by his Advanced Series. Looking back at this ebook I smile, because I remember reading it and thinking that it was the most influential piece of reading that I’d ever seen, and was just dying to get my hands on more information. Today, I view this book in a completely different light. Yes, it was the cornerstone of my learning, and the spark that started it all. But, now I feel that I’ve evolved past some of the things in this book, and some of it’s no longer useful. This is a good thing. So, do I recommend reading this book… yes and no. Yes, it’s interesting if you’ve never read or listened to anything on the subject of women and dating. No, if you’ve ever read any other type of material, you won’t get any value out of it. If you plan on purchasing other information, I’d skip it.

You’ve just read something you will rarely see anywhere else- an HONEST review. There are many great products to help you improve your dating life, and success with women, but not all products are created equally. I want you to get the most bang for your buck and only get the best products. In fact, I’m going to take it one step further and show you where to get up to 90% off many of the recommended products. You can click here to go directly to the signup page and start buying products.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

P.S. If you want the best bang for your buck, I’d definitely signup for my free e-course where I discuss some of the most potent principles I’ve learned from personal experience and the best principles from $4,739+ worth of products I’ve personally viewed and own! I discuss topics like:
• Eliminating fear of rejection
• How raw attraction really works with women and what 97% of men will NEVER know about women
• 5 deadly mistakes men will almost always make on dates
• Why women act angry, upset, and dramatic, and how you can take control of the situation
• How to flirt using eye contact and body language
• How to make women approach YOU
• The BEST date ideas that won’t cost you a dime
• The 7 personality traits that naturally attract women and how to develop them and put yourself on autopilot attractive male mode!

Signup On The Right!!!

P.P.S. You may be able to look around online and find this book for free. Try typing in "DoubleYourDating.PDF" into google. I've heard it's uploaded on Google Docs.

P.P.P.S. Yea, I just did it, and found it (I do not condone stealing or reading this ebook without purchasing it).

Hot Colts Girl Shakes It During NFL Pre Season

2010-08-26T08:24:00.000-07:00

This video is just for fun. Maybe it'll give you a little motivation for this weekend. Watch this girl shake it for the other team. Oh well, who cares who's she's shakin' it for. She looks good doing it.

And, if you're feeling in the workout mood, maybe this will inspire you. Personally, I just like to watch...Oh, and I'd turn on the High Definition for this.

Go get 'em this weekend.

To Your Success,

-B. Benz

Do Pheromones Really Attract Women? (Pheromone Reviews)

2010-08-20T07:15:00.000-07:00

The Pheromone Question.... Do... They... Work?

Look on most dating websites, attracting women forums, or some “insta-pimp” website, and you’ll almost certainly see talk or advertisement discussing (and usually praising) pheromones, and their amazing power to attract women. They’ll have some reviews from random people saying how great the product is. Of course, this is right beside a picture of some ridiculously attractive female…

I’ve even seen these sites display case studies of “Harvard Scientists” or something stating its success in case studies. Whether or not these case studies are true is not my place to say because I’m not a scientist. Admittedly, I’m not 100% sure that pheromones like pherlure ect. ect. don’t have some effect in attracting women. Weirder things have happened...

But, here’s what I can tell you- my experience and my opinion. I know that it is possible to attract women like a rockstar, and dramatically improve your success with women without the need for “pheromones”. I can also tell you that I fell into the same pitfall you may be in, and that’s believing all the junk that you read saying “pheromones are great, you will see results, and you’ll get laid by women in the picture beside this review”. The truth is, I tried many types of pheromones, and saw Zero noticeable results except to a small hole in my pocketbook. Maybe there are people out there that swear they’ve had success with them, but, if you really start to get into the root cause of RAW ATTRACTION, and why women are attracted to men, you will see that this is easily explainable, and has absolutely nothing to do with the pheromones themselves, but it’s merely a glorified placebo effect.

I’ll admit, it’s very tempting for someone who’s new to studying social dynamics, attraction, and success with women to buy into (no pun intended) these products. If you don’t believe me, and you absolutely can’t resist the nonsense, go ahead, buy the pheromones, put them on, try it, and I’ll see you back on my website in a few weeks once you realize you haven’t reached the level of success that you want…

Please, please, please take it from me, you don’t need pheromones, or any other magic potion type stuff, and it will only hurt your success if you begin buying into a quick-fix mentality of improving your success with women. A quick squirt or dab of a concocted formula will not display the attractive qualities of a strong sense of values, what you value in life, strong boundaries, confident body language, a positive outlook on life, and other qualities that truly attract women. Save your money, and the headache. Besides, most people promoting pheromones have one thing in mind- your pocketbook- not your success with women, and a fulfilled life.

So, if pheromones are NOT the keys to success, then what is? Well, luckily for you I’ve summed up the keys to success, and how you can drastically improve your dating life, how to attract hot women, how to develop your own identity, boost your confidence, and live a life of sexual abundance, and I’ve summed it all up in my free e-course called the Origins E-course (coming soon). This provides the most comprehensive insight into women, attraction, dating, what REALLY attracts women, and they keys to a life of sexual abundance. It’s up to you to take the reins and change your life!

To Your Success,

Brittan Benz

How Social Conditioning DESTROYS Sex & How To Rock Her WORLD

2010-08-06T19:00:00.000-07:00

First, let me start off by saying that I am not responsible for this incredibly awesome material. However, it's so great, and so well put together, I had to share it with you. The initial author is "Caligula" and I give him all the credit. Email me at RealNaturalMen@gmail.com if you'd like to see some more of his stuff.

So, here's his nuggets of gold on how sex in modern society has been totally destroyed by the way of the brutally misaligned, and feminine man...

"This knowledge changed my life. If you know how to fuck a woman well, you can provide her something that the majority of guys cannot: total, uninhibited, and ever increasing submission to pleasure.

The rewards are fantastic.

You have probably read the statistics that a large majority of women have never had a vaginal orgasm. You have probably also read that an even larger percent are unsatisfied with their sex lives (I read somewhere over 90%).

Knowing how to fuck will give you an enormous rate of return.

Perhaps the only thing that will give you a larger rate of return in terms of quality of life is taking care of your health.

I am only going to talk here about the things that I have learned AND successfully applied. Things that I am learning right now like Tantric sex, the male multiple orgasm and training her to cum while blowing you will not be covered here because I do not have a firm grasp on them yet.

This is more or less a bastardized version of The Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. For a fuller understanding of these concepts, I suggest you read that book.

Onwards.

Why Guys Suck In Bed

When a lot of guys try to improve their performance on bed, they immediately look for more positions, better ways to stimulate the G-Spot or proper clit-licking form.

In other words, they are focused on physical technique.

This stems from the mindset that sex is a form of physical pleasure.

The result is mutual masturbation with their partner(s), and usually pretty shitty masturbation for her, since she can usually pleasure herself better than you can if all you two are doing is rubbing genitals.

Women do not want to be pleasured by a gynecologist, they want to be fucked into submission by a man.

And the way you fuck a girl into submission is psychological, not physical.

This leads us to the golden rule of fucking: focus on stimulating her mind, not her body.

Write that on a sticky note and post it on the macaroni and cheese box where you hide your condoms.

Obviously, you need to know a few positions and some oral sex technique, but you merely need to strive for competance in that realm, not mastery.

In Daniel Rose's book The Sex God Method, Dan talks about the four pillars of amazing sex.

1. Dominance
2. Emotion
3. Variety
4. Immersion

DEVI.

Notice how all of those are psychological, not physical. One of the pillars is not “hit the g-spot at a 30 degree angle in the Zimbabwean orangutan position.”

That said, here is a very brief rundown of some basics of physical technique you should know.

1. Positons: Man on top (missionary), woman on top, doggy style, spooning, g-spot position (Her legs over your shoulders). These are your bread and butter, but feel free to use others. In fact, you should be putting thye two of you into new positions anyway.
2. Oral Sex: Tease her pussy first by breathing on it, kissing it or licking it softly, then thrust your tongue into her pussy (push the girl's legs above your head), do this for a little bit and then lick her clit. Calibrate the pressure to the girl, use plenty of saliva, lick the alphabet and ease off when she cums.
3. Fingering: Stimulate pussy over her panties, focus stimulation on opening of vagina, when you feel dampness through panties, take off the panties and stick in your finger(s). You can then moisten your finger and rub her clit and give her a clitoral orgasm with it or bend your finger(s) in a “come here” motion against her g-spot and give her a vaginal orgasm.

Oral sex should not be the mainstay of your sexual repoirtore, so don’t worry too much about it. While it is easiest to get a girl off by licking her clit, the orgasm she will experience from that is very lame compared to vaginal ones.

Focus on giving her vaginal orgasms. You do that by sticking your dick in there and giving her a ton of psychological stimulation. The things you do to her physical should merely compliment the psychological stimulation.

Dominance

“The difference between raping and ravishing is heart connection.”
- Amber Lupton

The feminine loves to be dominated. That is why women are so attracted to men who dominate their own lives (ie having a purpose and living by it) and dominate others (Leading, giving good emotions, having high status).

When you are having sex, all social bullshit goes out the window. It is a naked caveman penetrating a naked cavewoman.

You mindset should be “I am going to ravish her,” not “I will have sex with her.” That’s not what you want, and that is definitely not what she wants.

So how do you do this?

Dirty Talk

A lot of guys limit their bedroom skills by not talking during sex. This is rubbish. You NEED to be talking to her if you want to give her multiple orgasms.

Obviously, this should not be logical AT ALL.

Good: “You’re my little slut, you’re so fucking wet. You’ve been thinking about my long, hard cock inside you all day, haven’t you?”

Good: “You love nothing more than getting fucked by my long, hard cock. Ya, take it all in my little whore.”

Good: “Say my name. Beg me to cum in my little pussy.”

Good: “You pretend you don’t like getting fucked all day, but I know you live for nothing else.”

Good: “Just thinking about your tight little pussy makes me hard.”

Good: “You’re my bitch. I am going to fuck you wherever and whenever I want.”

Take ownership of her and her body when having sex. Instead of calling her a slut, call her “my slut.” Say “my pussy,” “my tits,” and “my ass.”

Dirty talk is VERY dominant and triggers a lot of wonderful things in the girl.

IMPORTANT: Do not exclusively talk to dirty to her. It will hurt her immersion if she is worrying that you do not respect her. Initially limiting dirty talk to when she is highly aroused (ie when you are in foreplay or having sex with her) will prevent this from happening. Also, using emotional talk in conjunction with dirty talk will do the trick.

Manhandling and/or bondage

Toss her around. Pin her against the bed or slam her against the door (better than the wall). Pull her hair. Spank her hard. Rip off her clothes.

Just do what a dominant alpha male would do to his woman.

Additionally, it is awesome to LIGHTLY tie a woman down. Use her clothes to tie her against the bedposts, but make it somewhat comfortable for her. If she is in an overly uncomfortable position, her immersion will be hurt.

Doing so is very dominant, especially when you tease the hell out of her before penetrating her.

Another easy way is to put her in a very dominant sexual position. Fucking her doggy style, for example, is a great one to use because you are this towering man pounding the shit out of her while she is on her hands and knees taking it all in.

Commands

This is huge.

NEVER, EVER ask a woman to do anything in bed.

Bad/Horrible/Faggotry: Can I have sex with you doggy style?

Good: Get on your hands and knees so I can fuck you from behind.

Bad/Horrible/Faggotry: Would you like to give me a blowjob?

Good: [stick penis next to her lips] Kiss it. Now suck it.

Bad/Horrible/Faggotry: I want to go all the way!

Good: Take off your pants.

Obviously, there is an ethical line here. I would not suggest doing anal or deepthroating a girl without consent. I’ll talk about those two a little later.

Emotion

The single best way to get what it means to embody the elements of an emotional lover is to read romance novels.

There is a part of every woman who wants to be dominated, but there is also a part that wants to experience a wide range of emotions. A lot of women who have boyfriends that get the whole dominance thing also have lovers on the side who provide her with that wide range of emotions.

You want to embody both.

Obviously, if you create a lot of attraction outside of the bedroom, she is going to feel very strongly about you. This will carry into the bedroom, where you can dramatically amplify it.

In that sense, good game can lead to good sex.

To spike emotions as the relationship moves along, you need to get her to invest more and more into you.

Make her work for the privilege of having sex with you. After giving her some amazing sexual experiences, start by making her carry the load in conversations and make room in her schedule to see you. As you convert her, get her doing favors for you like cooking, laundry and take you on dates. Because a master lover like you is so rare, she will gladly do so (I didn’t believe it until I tried it).

Even in the bedroom, make her work for the sex. Make her do the work sometimes in seducing you, and have her go down on you as much as you go down on her.

Most importantly, CONSTANTLY PUSH HER OUT OF HER SEXUAL COMFORT ZONE. More on this later.

Doing these things will give you a strong emotional foundation to amplify during sex.

Emotional Talk

Again, it is essential that you talk when having sex. When inserting emotional talk, focus on three themes: possession, how strongly you feel about her, and how strongly she feels about you.

Good: Baby, I love it when I’m inside you.

Good: This pussy is mine, and only mine. No other man can ever touch you.

Good: Baby, I love fucking you so deeply. I can feel your soul.

Good: Tell me how much you love me

Note: Get her to say she loves you before saying so yourself. After she does so, it is very effective to tell her that you love her too and tell her this constantly while having sex with her. Obviously, it helps if you actually do love her.

Combining dirty talk with emotional talk is when the magic really happens. Don’t worry if it makes logical sense or that the transitions are smooth. Just try to incorporate a lot of both into most of your sessions.

Telling her “I love you” while treating her like a whore or telling her how you would never hurt her while your hands are around her neck are examples of this in action.

Teasing

This is huge.

There is nothing more emotionally powerful than bringing a woman to the edge of what she wants and then not giving it to her. Once she has reached the edge of how much she can take, give her sudden, instant gratification.

For example, I like to tie my girlfriend up to her bodposts with various items of clothing. I will then spend 30 minutes or so teasing the hell out of her. I will pinch, nibble and lick virtually every part of her body. I will whisper very naughty things into her ear. I will then lick her pussy a few times and tell her “suck my cock for 2 minutes and you get three licks.” After this has gone on to the point where she is just losing it, I’ll suddenly slam my cock into her and watch as she cums right away.

Another idea is to thrust shallow and make her beg for you to thrust deeply. Another is to just tickle the edge of her pussy with your cock and tell her that you don’t think she can take it all in. It is a lot of fun to pull out of her suddenly, tell her you don’t think she can take it, let her freak out and then plunge your cock back in.

It is not uncommon for her to cum on the first stroke when you do this.

Have fun, and be creative with this. In essence, you are applying the “two steps forward, one step back” formula to sex.

Obviously, make sure she is aroused before teasing her. Otherwise, she will think you simply aren’t in the mood. If she is getting less aroused or clearly aggravated, then you should stop the teasing because it aint helping you.

And remember, the more sparse you tease, the more powerful it becomes when you do it.

Other Ideas

If you can bring in a“this is bad, we shouldn’t be doing this” and “we might get caught” context to the sex, her emotional response will be powerful. VERY powerful.

Try fucking her in public bathrooms, in the middle of the woods, in a changing room or in the computer lab (Funny story with that one).

Another way to spike her emotions is to make her look into your eyes when she cums or when you cum. Because of the pleasure she is feeling, this can be difficult for her. Hold her face with your hands if you need to (dominance).

WARNING: She will usually fall in love with you when you do this.

NOTE: The best time to say “I love you” for the first time is when she is about to cum. Every time I have done this, the girl goes into a continuous orgasmic state.

After Sex

After sex is where the emotional connection is solidified.

Women will usually talk emotional after sex. You should to, although try not to go higher than the level she is talking to you in. If you have already crossed the “I love you” threshold, this is a good time to remind her of that.

Recently, I’ve come to enjoy saying these cheesy, romantic poems to my girlfriend after sex.

Obviously, you need to evaluate where you are in the relationship.

Variety

This is all about pushing out of both of your comfort zones.

There is no easier way to kill your sex life than to do the same stuff every time you fuck.

Some guys are super dominant every time they have sex. For the first few times, she really digs this. Over time, however, she is going to crave someone who can take her through a wide range of emotions or give her a really immersive experience.

What you want to do is embody the traits of a dominant caveman type-lover, an emotional romance novel-type lover and and tantric spiritual-lover. If you can embody all three, she will have no urges to seek out any other partner.

Of course, this assumes you can competantly be all three.

This is actually pretty easy to do. Simply throw in elements of all three into each session, and change up the balance.

One night drag her into the bathroom, bend her over and give her a quickie. Later that night have a long, slow session where you are looking into each other’s eyes and professing how much you love one another. The next morning, as you are waking up, penetrate her and have a highly immersive, half-asleep fuck.

You get the idea.

Change it up during the session itself. At the beginning fuck her dominantly against the door, then suddenly pick her up, gently set her on the bed and slowly make love to her.

One time be 30% Dominance, 40% emotion and 30% immersion. The next be 80% dominance, 20% immersion.

Do multiple types at the same time. Grab her neck while telling her how much you love her and would never let anything bad happen to her.

With all of these things, you are giving her different types of psychological stimulation. That is where the power is at.

Of course, give her different types of physical stimulation to. Switch up positons, alter the amount of foreplay, etc.

Remember though, the focus should be on the psychological stimulation you are giving her. Make the primary focus of your variety on that.

Some other things to change up…
1. Location
2. Time
3. Context
4. Duration
5. Number of orgasms
6. Role plays and fantasies (Look some up)

Immersion

This is the area where I am currently just digging into the deepest levels.

On the surface level, immersion is letting go of thoughts, fully stripping away any social conditioning and just being in the present moment.

Sex becomes the best kind of meditative experience for both you and your partner.

On a deeper level, immersion leads to out of body experiences and multiple male orgasms.

I will be writing about those deeper levels as I master them myself. For now, we will stick with the surface levels, which will be more than adequate to give your woman multiple orgasms, and sometimes even a continuous one.

Ultimately, sex does not require any planning, forethought or direction. When you enter the bedroom, your mindset should be “let’s see where this goes.”

“But Caligula, haven’t you been talking about all these techniques and what not throughout the article?”

Indeed, there is a lot of content here. However, none of it requires thought to implement. They are simply ways of being.

The reason why the Sex God Method is so powerful is that you don’t have to break off from the experience at hand to use it. In other stuff on sex I have read, you would have to be thinking things like “alright, time to rub the clit at the 1:00 position with a 30 degree angle.”

With the Sex God Method, all you need to think is “more dominance.” Pow, suddenly, you’re manhandling her or talking dirty into her ear.

When I was first implementing this, the only 3 thoughts that would ever come into my head during sex was “dominance,” “emotion,” or “variety.” Whatever I instinctively did after the thought is what I went with. And guess what, it worked amazingly well AND I was fully immersed.

You lose if you are thinking “ok, time for dominance. OK, let’s talk dirty. Gee, what should I say?”

The words dominance, emotion and variety are simply signposts that point towards a raw, non-socially conditioned part of you. That raw, non-socially conditioned part of you is what you should be relying on. That is far and away the best “how-to guide” available to you.

So be in the present moment, fully. Most performance problems that arise stems from not being present during sex.

- Premature ejaculation

This happens when you are inside your head. If you are fully in the present moment and fully in tune with your body, you will instinctively know when to slow down. Thinking about calculus will not help you all that much because it keeps you in your head.

- Not getting it up

This comes from putting pressure on yourself, which can only happen if you are inside your head. If you can get hard for porn, you can get hard when a naked girl is in front of you. Fully take in her beauty and allow your biology to do its thing.

- Performance anxiety

Again, being inside of your head. Ultimately, this also reflects a lack of dominance. You should be leading the girl in whatever type of sex you want, not trying to please her. Ironically, by pleasing yourself you by extension please her. My girl usually cums 6-8 times a session, and the entire time I am focusing on me and the experience I am having.

- Anxiety over size of penis

My penis is a whopping 6 inches. Seriously, it doesn’t make a bit of difference guys, and the only thing that could cause you to think that it does is watching too much porn or some other type of social conditioning. Recognize it for what it is, and it will gradually lose power over you.

Getting Her To Take It Up The Ass

Golden Rule of Anal Sex: Never, EVER, talk about anal sex with a woman except when she is highly aroused.

BAD/HORRIBLE/FAGGOTRY: “Honey, how do you like your chicken? Great. Hey, can we do anal tonight?”

You are engaging her social conditioning here. It is the equivalent of driving home with a girl you just met and saying “so should we go to the drugstore and pick up some condoms?”

Here is the field-tested formula for getting her to take it up the ass regardless of how sexually closed she is.

STEP 1: Introduce anal play when she is highly aroused. This means ribbing her ass cheeks with your hands while fucking her doggy style, and slowly working your way inward.

STEP 2: When she has been exposed to anal play a few times, and is highly aroused, tell her to imagine what it would be like to feel your long, hard cock fill her in a way that she has never experienced. Imagine your ass being fucked. But we can’t do that, it would be bad.

STEP 3: When she is about to cum, stick your finger into her ass. Mentally, she will associate anal penetration with orgasm.

STEP4: Next session, when she is on the bring, take out your cock and put it up against her ass. Say “baby, this is bad, but I am going to fuck you up the ass.” Wait for her to say yes, then lube your cock and the inside of her ass GENEROUSLY (I like astroglide).

STEP 5: You need to be ridiculously slow if this is her first time. Tell her to finger herself while you slowly push your cock in and out. Again, this needs to be very, VERY slow. It usually takes me about 5-10 just to get the head of my cock into her ass. The pain she feels will be overrided by her fingering and you whispering dirty things into her ear (example: “God, it feels amazing to me in your ass.”)

STEP 6: After a very long time, you should be in her ass. Let her get used to it, then pound away. When you cum in her ass, it will be a unique feeling for her. She will feel very dirty. The cum that drips out of her ass might be dirty to, lol.

And so there you go, how to fuck your girl up the ass in 6 easy steps.

Remember, lube is essential.

Final Notes

These are what I consider the essentials that every man should know about how to please a woman. What kind of results can you expect by applying this material?

- Before, I could give a woman an orgasm per session, and usually get myself off as well. Now 6-8 orgasms from her is an average session.

- Before, I had never even heard of the continuous orgasm. Today, I can get my girl into one of those on average 1-2 times a month

- Before, I had never had anal sex. Now I have, and my girl wants it more than me.

- Before, my relationships were pretty balanced solely because I had options and game. Now women are sexually addicted to me, to the point where they go out of their way to please me.

Again, mastering sex is one of the most worthwhile things you can do.

Quick thought on "reading about sex."

Initially, I was reluctant to do any kind of research into sex. I figured that it was "natural" and that any kind of research into it would make it unnatural.

This is true in some respects. If you pick up a book that focuses on physical technique, you will probably get worse in bed because you will be more inside of your head.

As a result, you really should stick to books that focus on the psychological parts of sex. David Deida's work is great, some evolutionary psychology books I've read have been helpful, as have a lot of the tantra stuff that I have read.

The reason why these resources are great is because they point you to a place within yourself that already exists as opposed to telling you what to do.

As an extension of this, you can actually improve your bedroom skills by studying natural game resources, including the ones put out by RSD (The Blueprint actually was useful in improving my sex life... 9 months after I first watched it, lol)."

Great stuff. Thanks again Caligula! Dude's the man

To Your Success,

B. Benz

Cut From A Different Cloth?

2010-08-04T18:04:00.000-07:00

Cut From A Different Cloth?

A big “ah-ha” that I had about attracting women and dating is a term that I borrowed from RSD (Real Social Dynamics) called we are all “cut from the same cloth” or also phrased no one is “cut from a different cloth”. What do I mean by that? Well, it’s pretty simple. Think about all your fears, frustrations, desires, feelings, and thoughts. You may think some bizarre stuff. You may think that you’re the ONLY person in the WORLD who has your same apprehensions, fears, and frustrations. But, you’re not!

The reason I say this is because as you read articles on this website, and follow the E-Course, you will realize that there are some guys that get more women that you ever thought possible. Guys literally can go to a new city or new place, not know a single person, and absolutely OWN it. They make friends with everyone, the women eat them up, and they make everyone’s night better. And, it’s not because of their money or looks, or anything like that. If you’re sitting there thinking, “Well, I couldn’t do something like that, that’s not me”, I say BULLSHIT!

No matter how BAD or hopeless you think you may be, no matter what problems you have, or fears that you think are not conquerable, they CAN be conquered, and I GUARANTEE you that there are men out that started off worse than you, and with way worse “problems” that conquered them and eventually changed their life.

Want an example? There are countless, Tyler Durden, one of the founders of Real Social Dynamics, started off about 8 years ago really screwed up mentally, with NO success with women, a major chode, below average looks (sorry Tyler), and harboring a LOT of negative beliefs about women in general. Today, he runs one of the most prominent and respect businesses helping men deal with their issues and become more successful with women, and I have MASSIVE respect for him (not to mention being a total MACK with women). In fact, most of the men that run self development companies or have products like David Deangelo, the guest speakers on programs, Carlos Xuma, and others weren’t exactly born with the skills and beliefs that allow them to be successful with women. Actually, many of them were self-proclaimed wussy’s and chodes. They did not have NATURALLY good skills with women. But, they made a conscious effort to change their lives, face their fears, and take back control of their lives.

Ever heard of Sean Stephenson? Sean has been featured on countless television programs, interviews, he’s a college graduate, a Phd in psychology, and one of David Deangelo’s dear friends. He was born with a rare bone condition called Osteogenesis Imperfecta, that makes his bones extremely brittle and him extremely fragile. He’s been confined to a wheelchair for the 30 years of his life. Check out this short clip from the David Deangelo Man Transformations DVD:

If you think you have physical limitations or fears or excuses that are holding you back, think again! This guy, despite all of his physical issues, has a dating life, and probably a good one at that.

Remember to think of Sean Stephenson next time you have a fear or excuse holding you back. You are NOT cut from a different cloth as the guys that are living a life of sexual abundance, they’ve simply chosen to take action and take control of their life for the better!

To Your Success,

Brittan Benz

Masturbating and It's Relationship To Attracting Women

2010-07-27T19:32:00.000-07:00

Stifler: The Ultimate Horny Male (Just For Fun)

Currently… abstaining from masturbation for about 3 days. Feelings- tense feeling in/surrounding pelvic region. Thoughts- Thinking about every hot girl that walks by, pops up on my computer, or even skips through my mind. Insatiable desire to have sex. The first day is the hardest. The 2^nd day isn’t easy, and the third day sucks pretty bad too.

But, it does seem to get better after about 4 days. You lose the intense feeling that at any point you may bust a huge, raging erection and pounce on the first attraction girl you see.

So, why put yourself through this abstention? Sounds miserable doesn’t it? There’s a good reason, don’t worry and I’ll get to that. But, I’m doing it to study firsthand the effects of male masturbation and attracting women.

The Theories

I’ve heard several different theories about the effects of masturbation and attracting women. So, let me run down a few of the very basics…

1. NOT MASTURBATING increases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus enhancing the desire to pursue women.

2. NOT MASTURBATING increases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus making you more uncomfortable, fidgety, and generally sporadic around women making you seem unsure and lack confidence

3. MASTURBATING decreases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus decreasing your desire to pursue and attract women. May also make you feel less interested, and have “casual” conversations with women rather than “attraction” based conversations with women

4. MASTURBATING decreases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus decreasing your desire to purse and attract women. This results in feeling less detached from the outcome of conversing and interacting with women, thus, you come across as more confident and secure.

Of course, most theories are a combination of these 4. But, it’s interesting that there’s so much wide debate on the subject.

I can share with you my personal experience with this, and how I feel when masturbating vs. not masturbating.

If I have participated in masturbating for a few days in a row (usually once a day) and then abstain I can usually tell a difference almost immediately. The next day, the tension begins to build up inside. Naturally, this is the first, and most obvious effect- you feel more horny. Secondly, I noticed that I have more desire to be active. I have increased motivation to exercise, get out of the house, accomplish and achieve. So, as you can see, I’m not just talking about motivation to go out and meet women (this one seems rather obvious), but also the desire to simply be active and productive.

In contrast, and I’m sure you’ve probably experienced this, when I masturbate frequently, I lack the desire to do productive things. Instead, I’m more content to lay around the house, and definitely loose some desire to approach and meet women. However, there’s also the connection for me to simply masturbate more. So, say if I do it once earlier in the day, I want to do it again later on. Addictive? Maybe. But, there may be more to it. Let's look more at Masturbating and Attracting Women

Effects Of Ejaculation On Testosterone Levels

As you know, testosterone is what makes you more masculine. For women, it’s estrogen that makes them more feminine. Both men and women have each, but men have more testosterone, and women more estrogen. Simple enough.

In 2003, a case study was done on the effects on males in abstaining from masturbation and testosterone levels. In a nutshell, the study found that testosterone levels increased gradually between days 1 through 5 when abstaining from ejaculation. But, and this is the big ‘BUT’, on days six and seven, the testosterone levels saw a HUGE spike (up to 147% increase in body testosterone levels). After day 7, the testosterone levels returned to normal.

In conclusion, the study found that abstaining from an ejaculation for 7 days was the effective number of days to abstain from ejaculating to reach peak levels of testosterone.

A different case study reported on an observation of male rats during post-ejaculation and sexual exhaustion phases. The study found that after 4 days, only 63% of rats showed mating/sexual behavior. But, after 7 days 100% of the rats showed the same. The reoccurring number of 7 shows up again.

One thing to take away from this is that everyone may be a little bit different, but, there’s definitely a correlation between increased testosterone levels and abstinence for 5-7 days.

My personal experience dictates much of the same.

So, let’s take a deeper look into the theories I mentioned earlier.

The Loaded Gun Theory (There’s Something About Mary):

Script excerpt from the movie-

Okay, sounds like you're all set. Just

clean the pipes and it's a go.

TED

Hm?

DOM

You know, clean the pipes.

TED

Pipes? What are you talking about?

DOM

You jerk off before all big dates, right?

Tell me you jerk off before your big dates.

Ted just stares at him.

DOM (cont'd)

(incredulous)

You don't jerk off before--?! Are you

crazy?! That's like going out there with a

loaded gun. No wonder you're nervous!

Ted considers this.

DOM (cont'd)

Think about it: After you've had sex with a

girl and the two of you are laying in bed,

are you nervous?

TED

No.

Dom shrugs...Duh.

DOM

Why's that?

TED

I'm usually too tired to be.

Dom makes a game-show BUZZER sound.

DOM

Wrong. It's because you ain't got the baby

batter in your brain any more. That'll fuck

with your head, that stuff will.

TED

(starting to believe)

Huh.

DOM

The most honest moment in a man's life is

the five minutes after he's blown a load.

That's a medical fact. And it's because

you're no longer trying to get laid. You're

actually thinking like a girl. They love

that.

TED

Jesus Christ you're right.

DOM

You bet your ass I'm right. You don't go

out with a loaded gun, you empty the

barrels!

TED

(shakes his head)

Holy shit, I've been going out with a

loaded gun!

This theory is taken out of comedy movie, but the point is still valid. Masturbating does make you more calm and relaxed. In fact, some people say it helps them go to sleep. This theory says that you will feel more calm and relaxed. So, when you approach women, you will not feel nervous, and won’t do anything stupid thus aiding in the attraction process.

Seinfeld Abstinence Theory

In an episode from Seinfeld, George quits having sex because his girlfriend contracts mono. Now, George turns his focus to learning and turns into a genius. Sex now becomes less of a distraction for him and he’s able to focus his thoughts on other more productive things.

What can we take away from this idea?

Well for one, the abstinence from sex does NOT decrease distraction. In fact, it amplifies it. My personal experience dictates that when I’ve got 4,5,6 days without release, it becomes impossible to not feel that immense buildup of sexual tension and horniness.

So, if it’s always going to be a distraction, wouldn’t it be best to simply “deal with” this distraction? Not necessarily.

Ejaculation On Dopamine Levels

I once watched a video on methamphetamine and dopamine levels in humans and how that whole process works.

Basically, dopamine is a reward agent for our bodies. By that I mean that it’s a chemical that fires off in the nervous system that makes you feel happy, euphoric, content etc etc. Here’s the formal definition of dopamine:

a monoamine neurotransmitter found in the brain and essential for the normal functioning of the central nervous system

Dopamine has many functions in the brain, including important roles in behavior and cognition, motor activity, motivation and reward, inhibition ofprolactin production, sleep, mood, attention, and learning.

To make this simple to understand, think of dopamine as a unit of happiness. This is how the video on crystal meth and dopamine explained it to me. An expert professor in the study of dopamine and the human nervous system explained that, “Say eating a cheeseburger realeases one unit of dopamine into the nervous system of the body and an orgasm releases 2 units of dopamine into the body. To put that in comparison, one hit of crystal method introduces 2,000 units of dopamine in comparison.”

Essentially, the professor was trying to say that’s why crystal meth is so addictive. So, DON’T DO IT GUYS! J

But, back to my main point. When you have sex, and have an orgasm, dopamine is released into the body. It reinforces that the body “likes this” as one of humans main hard-wired desires is to procreate. So, if you meet this need, your body rewards with a huge release of dopamine.

On the reverse side, when dopamine levels are depleted, it creates an adverse effect on other levels of the nervous system that need it to function properly. A study published by the American Journal of Psychology showed the effects of low dopamine levels on its male volunteers. These male volunteers deliberately had their dopamine levels depleted over a 42 hour period. During the timeframe, these normal, socially healthy males experienced signs of obsessive-compulsiveness, thought disorders, social anxiety and depression.

Since ejaculation (masturbation) releases dopamine, I think it’s safe to say that too much release can lower dopamine levels and may have an adverse effect on your lifestyle and drive to attract women, but also to achieve and be productive.

My Theory In A Nutshell

Motivation is a huge part of becoming an alpha male, being sexually active, and attracting women. Some days you feel more motivated that others. But, there seems to be a clear relationship between lack of motivation, and masturbation.

You may disagree with my opinion. You may take the argument that masturbation relaxes you and essentially makes you “care less” and give off the alpha vibe as a result. Please, feel free to comment and post. I’m in search of truth just like anyone else.

In my personal experience masturbation gives off a false reward thus losing motivation in pursuit of the “real deal”. This tricks the body into thinking that it is giving off alpha male qualities when in fact it’s giving off beta male qualities. In effect, it’s a vicious cycle.

Masturbation= less motivation= less real sexual intercourse

Less Frequent or No Masturbation= more motivation= more sexual intercourse

After examining the above evidence I’m going to personally conclude that masturbation is best on a 7 day cycle. No more than once every 7 days. The concept is that I masturbate only 7 days. If I have sexual intercourse within those 7 days, then great. But, if I don’t, then I can “relieve myself” on day 7.

Feel free to contribute to this post. Has anyone else experimented with this concept? Give details!

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

Should I Really Leave My Relationship?

2010-07-10T15:20:00.001-07:00

Should I Really Leave My Relationship?

Sometimes I think it’s good to question your motives, behaviors, and reasons why you do things. You have to consider why you are dating.

Here I want to talk about relationships. Yes, I know, not usually a main topic of discussion, however, stay with me, because I think this is relevant.

Again, I think it’s relevant and healthy to question your motives and why you do things every once in awhile. It’s good to be confident and decisive, yes, but what I mean is a core questioning.

Do I still want to be in this relationship?

Is it still healthy for me?

Am I growing as a person in this relationship?

These are relevant questions. I discovered awhile back that your always living or dying. You’re either growing as a man, or become more of a chode, and a wuss.

For me, I’ve bounced around from relationship to relationship, and currently I’m in a relationship that’s lasted about a year. It’s happy and it’s great. I really do feel like I’m growing from it, and that it’s healthy.

So the question still remains, Should I Really Leave My Relationship?

But, let me tell you what’s not healthy: A relationship that you’re in just because you don’t have anything else better at the current moment. Yes, I’ve been there and done that as well. You justify it by saying, “Well, I’ll stick around with her until something better comes around.”

So, what’s the problem with that? How much mental energy are you devoting to that person? How much time are they taking up? How much of that time could be spent towards improving yourself rather than sitting around just “waiting until something better just shows up”?

It’s perfectly natural to want women in your life. I want women in my life. I enjoy having sexy, smart, intelligent women in my life. And, I deserve it.

But, a relationship is like a trade off. If you’re in a relationship that’s not brining you satisfaction right now, and you don’t feel your growing from the experience, you’re only hurting yourself in the long run.

It’s the easy thing to do. Stay in a relationship until something better comes along.

Also, I think that this also comes from the fear of being alone. If you end a relationship, and decide to work on yourself, and your life rather than be a serial relationshiper, you are ultimately leading yourself to a window of time where you will be alone. There will be a time where you don’t have a girlfriend or significant other.

You want me to let you in on a little secret- that’s ok. It’s ok to be single, and have no strings attached to anyone. It’s healthy to do every once in awhile.

Being alone and having no strings attached to any type of girl is healthy. It allows you to grow as a man, and also allows you to become comfortable with being by yourself. They guys that are awesome with women and can create natural attraction are totally, 100% OK with being alone, and being just with themselves. It’s important to be OK with this.

If you’re between relationships or you’re looking to be single for awhile, develop yourself, build your social circle, and be happy with it.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

P.S. When you and your girlfriend are at this level, you may want to reconsider your relationship. WARNING: This video is not suitable for children and contains violence. But, it's also mildly entertaining!

David Deangelo Body Language DVD Review

2010-07-09T19:20:00.000-07:00

David Deangelo Body Language DVD Review

The Body Language program has some great information. I especially enjoy the piece where David brings men on stage at various times and picks apart the body language and improves upon it. When the audience and David D. manipulate things like posture, stance, facial movements, clothing, hands, and other pieces, you can instantly detect the status and body language convey higher or lower status.

Here’s a brief breakdown of some things included on the program:

Disc 1- mating dance; body language as direct communication

Disc 2- how status conveyed through body language; walking/posture; body language as a projection of inner game; presentation by Mystery

Disc 3- Mystery continuation; Steve and Eric (A.K.A. Steve P. and Hypnotica). Both go into some NLP and a few brief exercises. Finally, Craig comes in to give his opinions and principles on body language

Disc 4- Craig continues to give insight about tactics and principles of body language. As far as the guest speakers, I like Craig’s material and insight better than any of them even though I’m a pretty big Tyler Durden fan (he’s the next guest speaker).

As usual, David Deangelo’s program offers value, and I especially like Craig and Tyler Durden at the end of the program.

The downside, as with many of the programs, the price is a little steep ($200). The program is best suited for beginner to intermediate. However, I would NOT recommend it as a first program, but rather the second or third program. Check out some of my other reviews for products I’d recommend as “first” programs.

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2010-07-09T16:17:00.001-07:00

Attracting Women and The Counter Intuitive

If you aren’t already familiar with the term, the “counter intuitive” is an expression that means something is REVERSE of what you would logically THINK it is. Example, a number pattern 1…2….3….385,548,648. Or how about red…orange…blue…green….MEOOOW. The number “385,548,648” and the noise a cat makes “MEOOOW” don’t fit in with the rest of the groups. Why? Because it’s not what you would logically expect to come next. Reading women, and understanding attraction can leave you feeling completely lost. But, what if I told you there was an answer to this madness? All you need is the “magic decoder”.

Think of this website, my articles, and the products I recommend as the “magic decoder” for attraction and understanding women. If I told you the pattern was list three numbers in order, then a long, random strand, or list four colors and then an animal noise, the above patterns would make sense, and you could easily repeat. Let me debunk some common “counter intuitive” principles:

Be Nice, And She’ll Be Nice To You
This makes sense doesn’t it? Like mom always says, be nice, and she’ll be nice to you. It’s not that simple my friend. Being “nice” isn’t what sparks attraction. I’m NOT suggesting being rude, or mean to women, I’m simply pointing out it’s simply not what matters. It’s an anomaly. It’s just there. Being nice is what it is. It makes no difference one way or the other when attracting women. It’s like saying be nice, and you’ll make a jump shot, or be nice, and you’ll be able to read minds. It’s not RELEVANT. If you’d like to get a more clear understanding of what IS relevant in creating insane attraction, I would recommend checking out my other articles, and my product reviews.

Buy gifts, dinners, and flowers early on and she’ll respect your thoughtfulness
Nope. This doesn’t do much either. See, when you buy these things for women, what are you really telegraphing without your words? Something to the effect of “I got you flowers/gifts/dinner/chocolates /car/house/clothes because I thought you’d like them. I only did them for the pure motive of showing you how much of a gentleman I am”? Not exactly… more like “I got you ____ because I really think that being with me and my personal time isn’t valuable enough so this is here to compensate, and I hope that you like them because I, as a man, do not offer enough by myself”. This may seem a little harsh, but it’s closer to the truth. When you do things like this early on, you’re sending a message that you do not value what you have to offer as a person, and the external things are supposed to stand in place of your lack of value.

Think “this woman is special” because she’s super hot and do something “different” to get her to like you
Let’s say that you meet this really awesome girl. Like realllly great. You’re so giddy and excited because you think you’ve met the most awesome girl on the planet. Andddddd, she may even kinda like you. I know you probably think this girl is “special” and maybe you should be extra nice, or spend extra time with her, or whatever. But, this simply is NOT the case. See, women that are of very high value (9s and 10s) are literally bombarded with guys treating them like they’re special, and they can SEE RIGHT THROUGH IT. Don’t be fooled into thinking that if you treat the really high quality women “special” that you’re doing yourself a favor, because you aren’t. In fact, it’s counterproductive. If anything, hang back, don’t be overly concerned about what happens, and let the chips fall where they may. Give her EXTRA space, and distance. Don’t call her as much, don’t see her as much, and don’t do thinks like buy expensive gifts and dinners.

Giving complements, texting all the time, calling all the time, and devoting lots of attention will show her what a great guy you are!
If the above statement makes sense to you, think again. You may think that you’re sending a message of how much you “care”, but really what you’re communicating is “I NEED to give you compliments, text you all the time, call you all the time, and devote lots of attention to you because the value that I offer as a man is not enough to stand on its own in comparison to you.” Again, maybe a little extreme, but it’s what’s being communicated on a deeper level.

So, I’ve told you what to stay away from, and what not to do, but what about if you want to improve your life, and success with women. A major sticking point for me has been that I had these thoughts, and emotions that ran through my head very similar to these, and the key to success lies within your own head. But, you must first crack through the junk, and all these false beliefs, and free your mind. In order to have massive success with women, it’s important that you understand these dynamics. My “magic decoder” to all of this is in many of the products that I’ve listed under my product reviews. I can’t begin to explain how much they’ve made a difference in my life.

Stay Tuned Friends.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

"You're Not Your Job"- Tyler Durden Explains...

2010-07-07T12:57:00.000-07:00

“You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.”- Fight Club (1999)

You must separate these two in your mind despite what TV, advertising, radio, magazine, and other forms of social conditioning tell you.

You see, through social conditioning, many men believe in “the system” to drive their success with women. They want to believe that by going to work, making money, and doing things that build their value superficially, and think that their problems with women will be solved.

Please understand that I’m not bashing or discouraging you from setting goals, and striving to achieve making money, becoming a doctor/lawyer, bodybuilding, and the plethora of other pursuits in life are awesome, and can add value to your life. I respect many people that have achieved amazing things, and dedicated their lives to improving society. But, make these pursuits and goals FOR YOU, and no one else. Don’t set goals or strive to achieve things with the ulterior motive that it will help your success with women. It won’t. You must separate these two in your mind despite what TV, advertising, radio, magazine, and other forms of social conditioning tell you.

Money, nice cars, clothes, muscles, watches, jewelry, and houses are all awesome. I enjoy nice cars and I have a nice watch, but the point is, if you’re looking to draw confidence from these things, then it’s an empty path. Ultimately, these things are hollow and unsatisfying. Living up to society and other people’s standards can give you a temporary fix of confidence, but will not give you a real sense of value or self esteem. Only YOU can bring that from within, and give yourself permission to be happy.

If you follow my other posts and this blog, you may see the connection and why this is important to picking up and attracting beautiful women.

All of these elements mentioned are external factors that you may attempt (consciously but mostly unconsciously) to base your value as a man, and core confidence off of.

But, when you derive your confidence from within, you will be absolutely DEADLY with women.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

David Deangelo 77 Laws DVD Review

2010-07-07T10:58:00.000-07:00

"Here Are All Of My VERY BEST
Concepts, Techniques, And Ideas...
Condensed, Stripped Down, And
Delivered To You In A Rapid-Fire,
“Affirmation Style” That Not Only
Teaches You The Material...
But Subconsciously Burns It
Into Your Brain -
Making The Skills Required
For MASTERY With Women
A Permanent Part Of You,
In The Fastest Amount Of Time
Humanly Possible...”

77 Laws is exactly what it sounds like. David D. has collected his main ideas, and killer concepts, and put it all into one program. He begins at the top of the list of the most broad paradigms, and works his way down the list. Here’s a short list of examples:

The KEY to MASSIVE Confidence – I’ll show you the special 5-minute exercise I’ve created that---when done daily---“stair steps” your self-image to a more and more confident and charismatic state… to the point where women can literally FEEL your presence when you walk into a room (I’ve done this for YEARS and I can’t begin to tell you just how much it’s affected my life… and my success with women.)
A DEADLY mistake guys make that prevents them from EVER being successful with women… and what to do instead (I HAD to include this in the program because almost ALL MEN make it. It’s the thing that causes most “regular” guys to only be able to date women who aren’t “high quality”… and causes some men to get ZERO women whatsoever. The really sad thing is that men NEVER KNOW they are making this mistake… but now you will… and I’ll show you how to correct it fast)
A new way to learn and INTERNALIZE any skill---whether it’s related to attracting women or not---twice as fast (With this secret, you can “fool” your brain into thinking you are already an expert at performing the particular skill… so you do it perfectly EVERY TIME. You’ll use this trick to teach yourself to approach women, get phone numbers, and even please a woman in the bedroom at a “mastery” level in just a few short days.)
An all-too-common bad habit that tells a woman---and anyone else around you---that you are a WUSS instantly… even if you “appear” to be a confident guy on the outside (If you don’t REALLY have your “inner game” together you are probably making this mistake now… so listen up…)

This is a pretty unique concept, and doesn’t follow the same script as many other programs. David D. claims he’s “designed it as a refresher course” if you’ve already gone through other programs. I think this is a fairly accurate description of the programs best use, and the audience that should view the program. I would NOT recommend this to someone that has never viewed another DVD/CD program recommended by me, but I would recommend this set for someone that has seen other programs, and wants a quick “refresher” course.

However, compared to David Deangelo’s other programs, I wouldn’t say it’s his most powerful program, or the one that offers the most value, and I think other programs by Real Social Dynamics or an ebook may be more valuable if you’ve already listened to other David Deangelo programs. When I first went through this DVD, I had already seen probably 5 other David Deangelo programs, so this program was nothing but a broad overview. However, I would recommend looking into a Real Social Dynamics program (all reviewed on this website), or other program.

I believe that David Deangelo is a pioneer in the field of women/dating, self-help, and I have MASSIVE amounts of respect for him. But, I do believe that it is very beneficial to get another perspective on this type of information whether it be Real Social Dynamics, Carlos Xuma, or other information set.

Who Does This Program Best Suit?:

· People who would like a refresher course of David Deangelo Products
· Someone looking to spend a little less money (program cheaper than other David D. Products)

· If you’re looking for a general reference on how to mentally prepare yourself for ‘picking up’, this material is perfect. This can serve great as affirmations to develop the mental toughness on your way to pick up mastery.

· At a point where mastery of the arts is where you want to head and you no longer feel that you’re missing that ‘one key’ that’ll solve your frustrations, then I feel that these laws are the skeleton frame of what you need to build on.

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· Eliminating fear of rejection

· How raw attraction really works with women and what 97% of men will NEVER know about women

· 5 deadly mistakes men will almost always make on dates

· Why women act angry, upset, and dramatic, and how you can take control of the situation

· How to flirt using eye contact and body language

· How to make women approach YOU

· The BEST date ideas that won’t cost you a dime

· The 7 personality traits that naturally attract women and how to develop them and put yourself on autopilot attractive male mode!

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This Video Of Natural Tim Is Pretty Solid

2010-07-06T17:12:00.001-07:00

I thought I'd share this with you.

Many of you may have seen this, but it's still a great vid

David Deangelo Bars & Clubs DVD Review

2010-07-06T16:32:00.000-07:00

“Here's The True Story Of How
I Went From Not Even Being Able
To TALK To A Girl In A Nightclub
To Literally Being Able To
Go To Any Bar Or Club Anytime
And Meet As Many Beautiful Women And Get As Many Dates As I Want...”

If You Learn The Simple Secrets I'm
About To Reveal, You Can Confidently
Go To A Bar Or Club, Approach The
Most Attractive Women, And Walk Out
With More Phone Numbers And
Dates Than You Can Handle...

Let's face it. All mean DREAM of having the skill set to walk into a nightclub or bar, have a fun night, meet a lot of women, and develop a strong attraction and chemistry with the hottest ones. This program discusses the principles behind the bars and clubs scene as well as introduces several guest speakers that seem to have a VERY finely tuned skill set in the environment.

Craig (David Deangelo's friend) takes much of the spotlight in this particular program. Personally, I really like Craig. He's got his act together, and I can imagine he'd ROCK the nightclub scene. Tyler Durden also comes in as a great speaker in the last hour and gives some of his basic principles. And, the famous PUA Mystery also joins the program.

I like this program. The program is strictly (technique-based and doesn't touch the underlying issues that most men have when learning from this stuff, but the program DOES provide an insight into various techniques and philosophies that guys that are REALLY good with women have.

I like the program; however, it's not my favorite of David Deangelo’s. If you're new to programs and seminars on this topic, it may be a good program to view, but, it’s not among my favorites. The one major benefit that it DOES offer to new or inexperienced guys is it allows you to see the different schools of thought, but also the commonalities and internalized beliefs of several different men that KNOW and UNDERSTAND the psychology of female attraction. I think David Deangelo offers other products that are much better, and really get to the real underlying issues men have with women and dating. Personally, I like Flawless Natural and Jeffy Show for dealing with being successful in bars and clubs. These programs by Real Social Dynamics are among the best in the biz, although they tend to be a little more pricey.

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· 5 deadly mistakes men will almost always make on dates

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· How to flirt using eye contact and body language

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David Deangelo- Deep Inner Game Review

2010-03-31T21:22:00.000-07:00

“New Breakthrough Discoveries In Science And Psychology Help You Eliminate The
Anxiety, Nervousness, Self-Doubt And FEAR
That Are Destroying Your Chances With Women—
It's Time To FINALLY Overcome Your Fears,
Take Control Of Your Emotions, Learn To
Approach Women Easily To Start Conversations...
And Transform Yourself Into The
Powerful, Confident, Attractive Man That
Every Woman Is Desperately Looking For...”

The Deep Inner Game program centers around the interaction between David Deangelo and Dr. Paul (founder of Mind OS and a genius in psychology). This program is considered “inner game” (hence the name), and doesn’t go into a lot of lines, openers, kino escalation, or any of that, but rather, WHY these things work, and the deep level that these things hit if used correctly, and why they flat out SUCK if used incorrectly!

Personally, I’ve found that I get wayyy more out of this type of information versus programs that outline specifics of “Do This, Then This….”. At first, I always looked for the next line, then the technique, and the magic pill that society tells us exists. Eventually you will see that this type of material will only get you so far, and frankly, it’s not the ultimate level of success I want, or that you probably want, whether you admit it or not.

David D. and Dr. Paul really break down things like boundaries, high ethics, emotions, and other deep rooted issues that really gets down to the root of attraction, and how to improve yourself as a mature man.

My final verdict on the Deep Inner Game Review...

Here’s the deal. As you can tell by reading my reviews of other products, I’m a huge fan of David Deangelo, Real Social Dynamics, and Carlos Xuma. I’d say these guys are the top three on all levels. Each of them delivers awesome material, with different teaching methods, and different insights. Ultimately, all of their materials are sign posts to a feeling you seek called bulletproof confidence. Some external signs of this include really, truly NOT CARING if a woman rejects you, high self esteem, genuine happiness on all levels, ridiculously good skills with women, and life of sexual abundance.

Multiple products that I’ve reviewed on this website point you in the right direction, and David Deangelo’s Deep Inner Game is one of them. I REALLY like this program. But, this is a review and I want you to get the most bang for your buck should you choose to purchase a program.

So, here’s my advice… If you’ve watched another David Deangelo Program like Advanced Techniques or Mastery, or Man Transformations, I’d consider picking up a Real Social Dynamics Program or Carlos Xuma program, and vice versa. Ultimately, you must find the “sign posts” that hit home to you the most and register to you. If you try a David Deangelo program and a Real Social Dynamics program, and you like the teaching style of one better than the other, stick with the one you like. But, I DO recommend trying a taste of each of them to find the material that best hits home to you.

I do have some opinions specifically related to David Deangelo’s Deep Inner Game Program. First, if you can afford it, I’d HIGHLY recommend this one on DVD. There’s lots of visuals that make this program much more beneficial on DVD (more about affording this program in a moment). Secondly, don’t pick this up as your FIRST program. If you’re a newbie, I’d recommend something else, as this is more internal based improvement. Overall, I really like this program, but I would recommend diversifying if you’ve already seen another David D. program.

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· 5 deadly mistakes men will almost always make on dates

· Why women act angry, upset, and dramatic, and how you can take control of the situation

· How to flirt using eye contact and body language

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David Deangelo- On Being A Man Review

2010-03-31T20:55:00.000-07:00

On Being A Man Review

The boy must die in order for the man to live! The idea that males grow up in modern society without any sort of ‘rite of passage’ or formal introduction into society stands as the backbone for this seminar. What I really enjoy about this message is that it conveys one of our main issues as a modern society. The culture that we live in suppresses manhood and encourages us men to do things like discuss our feeling and be overly sensitive- things that are not inherently male.

The program features 4 DVDs and about 6 hours of audio/video. I did enjoy the program and the material discussed. However, I think that David D. delivers other material and other programs like Deep Inner Game and Man Transformations. But, with the information that I share with you next, you can probably afford multiple programs!

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· How to flirt using eye contact and body language

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Magic Pill Society

2010-03-31T20:47:00.000-07:00

Our society, as well as our mental programming tells us as human beings to exert the least amount of energy (physical and mental) to obtain what we want. Anyone that has a basic knowledge of human physcology will not debate this. Of course, many people avoid this pitfall, but it’s typically an initial “gut level” response.

Why does this matter? Well, say you’re a guy that begins to search around online or elsewhere on how to “get chicks” or “get a girlfriend” or whatever variation of this. Your heart is broken because you have the one girl you really like and you want to know how to win her over. If only you could get that one girl…

So, what do you do? You want techniques, a quick fix, or a mental band aid to put on the problem. Better yet, why don’t you just spray on some magic pheromone potion, do a little ancient ghost dance, and hold your breath for 30 seconds. Then, she’ll fall head over heels for you, right? WRONG! My point is that as human beings, we want a quick fix and instant gratification. We want to instantly be able to attract women- hence the “magic pill society” concept, and the title of this article.

If you’re new to the concept of self actualization, improving yourself, or attracting women, prepare yourself for this next statement. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX OR MAGIC PILL TO ATTRACT WOMEN- PERIOD! This alone took me months to realize. Of course, I had heard people say it, I read it in the eBooks, and programs, but it never truly registered in my mind. Now, I’m not saying that you can go out and have success with women by using pickup lines, stories, and techniques. You may see some success, and even improvement for awhile. I’m only saying that it will NEVER get you the rock star results, and life of sexual abundance that you really desire. However, most men will tell you that they used these for awhile, and now as they become more centered as a man, use them less and less.

Guys, there’s no quick fix or magic pill to obtain rock star success, and a life of true abundance with women. Really, really think about what I’m saying. There’s no magic opener, or line, and there’s no magic spray or amazing outfit. I’M NOT SAYING THEY ARE COMPLETELY USELESS. But, if you choose to take embark on the journey of improving yourself, and your true value as a person, you will eventually realize this.

Additionally, there’s no article or eBook or DVD course that will create an instant fix. Many of the eBooks and programs have helped me and many others in the journey, but the eBook or course itself cannot act as a magic pill either. Again, don’t take this the wrong way, because I fully endorse many of the products out there. They offer an immense amount of value, and I can’t begin to describe how thankful I am for guys like David Deangelo and Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics who have dedicated their lives to helping men create success with women. I’m a follower and strong believer in much of their teachings, and I hope to reach a level of self actualization that they have.

Want some good news? The choice to improve my life in this area is one of the best decisions I ever made, and the journey is priceless (not meant to sound corny). I can’t tell you how much my life has changed.

If you’re looking for the next level of success with women and dating, I have a few recommendations for various products and eBooks under my product reviews section. As a general rule of thumb, if it’s not recommended by me, I probably wouldn’t buy it. There’s a lot of websites out there that have “reviews” of eBooks, and DVDs, but there’s a catch. They make money when you read their review and purchase the product from their “recommend lists” of products they’ve usually never seen or used before. I only mention this because your best interest may not be in mind on their product reviews, only what product they can make the most money by supporting. But, don’t fear, I’ve only recommended products I’ve personally read or used. Many of these products are great, but implementing and taking charge of your life is up to YOU!

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

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Thoughts On NLP And Attracting Women

2010-03-30T14:06:00.000-07:00

First, in order to not mislead you in any ways, I’d like to first point out that I have never studied in depth or attempted NLP or to hypnotize women into a certain state.

So, you’re probably wondering what I could possibly say on the subject. Well, a couple of things actually. I’m neither trying to negate its effectiveness or prevent you from using it, but I do have some thoughts.

First, I do know that there are men that are very successful with women who use these methods. But, I also know that it’s definitely not the only way to attract women, and certainly not the easiest either.

Sure, if this sounds interesting to you, then look into it, but I would only recommend checking it out if the subject actually interests you, NOT with the ulterior motive of attracting or “seducing” women. See, ultimately I strive to be authentic with women, and I’m sure many of you out there are saying the same thing. “I just want women to like me for me,” and things along those lines. But, of course, there’s a fine line of improving yourself versus being authentic (more on that some other time).

Here’s the deal, the NLP/Hypnosis type approach to attracting women may work, but I simply prefer to do other things to improve myself, and make myself into what Tim of Real Social Dynamics calls a “SEXWORTHY GUY”. Personally, it’s not for me. I think other things like working on yourself will bring much more long term success and happiness.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

David Deangelo Mailbag: What To Talk About On The First Date Sept. 1, 2001

2010-03-30T14:04:00.001-07:00

“What To Talk About On The First Date” - September 1, 2001

I get a lot of guys who ask me "What should we talk about on the first date?" and "What do I do if she asks me something that I don't want to answer?" and such.

These are great questions.

If the conversation goes too far in the wrong direction, it can ruin the entire rest of the time, and can lead to a premature end to what could have been a very beautiful thing.

When I go out with a woman for the first time (and I always recommend just doing coffee or tea for the first meeting) I like to accomplish a few main things:

1) Let her know that I'm very selective, and that I'm auditioning her just as much as she's auditioning me.

2) Make sure she's the kind of woman that I'd like to spend more time with in the future.

3) Leave myself with an easy excuse to leave should she try to convert me to her religion or sell me Amway.

4) Have flexibility to go on and do something else after should the time be enjoyable.

So, let's say that you're sitting there with latte in hand, all ready to charm her with your wit and personality. What do you say? And what do you talk about? And how do you avoid the things that you don't want to talk about (like the fact that you still live with your mom AND your old grandma)?

First, let me share how I think about this whole situation in general.

Most women have the idea that the first date is to basically qualify the man, figure out what's wrong with him, figure out what kind of guy he is (push over or a challenge), and decide if a second date is in order.

Now, if you want to be a sheep, it's a good idea to just go along with whatever she wants to talk about, and to answer all of her questions directly. It's also a great way to get yourself thought of as a wuss.

Here's a little secret: Most women don't realize it on a conscious level, but if a man goes along with whatever they ask him, and do whatever she wants, he becomes less ATTRACTIVE to her.

I know that this doesn't make sense, but people don't make sense... does that make sense?

Whatever.

In any event, I believe that it's important to never let the conversation get out of control, and never let her lead you down a road that is a dead end (like the old conversation about whether you want marriage and kids!).

It's OK to be sarcastic and difficult, and to stay in control of the conversation.

So let's talk about how to do just that.

I personally like to talk about current affairs... but with a special twist. I think that it's fun to make fun of famous, beautiful women!

I might say "Did you see American Pie 2? What's with how fake Naudia looked in thta movie?" or "Did you see the Madonna concert on TV? She's getting up there, isn't she?"

Now, if I'm with a girl that obviously has low self esteem, or is not that attractive, I might go with something a little bit lighter like "So what's with all these plain girls on the covers of the model magazines?"

The point is that I want to let her know that I'm not the kind of guy that just rolls over and worships a woman because she's a woman. I want her to know that I'm just as or even more selective than her.

When a woman believes that you're selective, she'll usually respond by trying harder to get your attention. This is human nature. We put more value on things that we think are harder to get.

I always like to find some way to make it known that I'm a selective guy, and I like women who are more than the average amount of attractive, intelligent and funny.

Let's talk about the specifics and the how to...

Remember: Women love to gossip and talk about other women and men. They love sordid dirty tales of other people with all the details.

So have some dramatic current affairs on tap for conversation.

Scandals involving famous people are one of my personal favorites. Right now we have th Gary Condit drama going in full force. This creates a great opportunity to say "So what's with this Gary Condit guy? Doesn't he get it? And couldn't he have chosen a CUTE girl instead?"

Another one that's going on right now is Tom Cruise breaking up with Nicole Kidman and dating Penelope Cruz. Great opportunity to say "Now what in the world is Tom thinking? I mean, he goes from bad to worse..."

The key is that you want to stay away from boring conversating like "Where were you born?" and "What do you do for a living?" and "What kind of car do you drive?"

Those kinds of topics are bad bad bad.

You want to be talking about Kid Rock dating Pamela Anderson... and that you think Pamela isn't very attractive because she looks fake. Are you with me?

Which leads me to my next favorite thing to do... I never give her a straight answer about my personal life or background.

If she asks me what I do for a living, I might answer with "I see, so nest you'll want to know what I drive, where I live, and if I love my mom, right?"

Said in a sarcastic, cocky, funny way, this will do two things: It will make her EVEN MORE curious, and it will agitate her a little... and if you say it right it will have the added bonus of making her laugh (which is the most important part).

Whenever she asks a question, BE DIFFICULT IN A FUNNY WAY. Make her work for an answer. But make sure she's laughing, too...

This is a great way to turn a regular, normal old conversation into something fun.

Of course, if you want a detailed look inside the mind of women, and all the details about how to be interesting and ATTRACTIVE to women, you need to read my book "double your dating". It has all the information you need to be a rock star in the dating department. You'll find all the details at:

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I'll talk to you next week.

Your friend,

David D.

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3 Mindsets To Ignite Fire In YOUNGER Women

2010-03-29T18:46:00.000-07:00

Christoper Knight (50) and Adrianne Curry (26)

Michelle Branch (25) and Teddy Landau (44)

Seal 'he's freakin UGLY' (45) and HEIDI 'PERFECT 10' Klum (35)

Michael Douglas (63) and Catherine Zeta-Jones (38)

I Don't know but it's a huge difference!... You get the point

All you old farts thinking of dating younger women, you’ve come to the right place. Step on up, and I’ll show you all the little tricks and secrets to dating younger women.

Alright, enough of that. Seriously, it’s not that big of a secret or mystery. Why is it challenging for men to date younger women? Wait, who said it was??? Well, apart from social circles typically gathering around people generally the same age…it’s not. You heard me. There is absolutely NO reason why you cannot go out and start dating hot, younger women.

I can hear your internal dialogue already… “But younger girls don’t like older women. I know because blah blah blah. I tried to go on a date with one, one time, and she shot me down. You can’t do it. Maybe sometimes, but usually you can’t.” Blah BLAH BLAH.

So, why do you have the belief (and I’m assuming you do on some level, or you probably wouldn’t be reading this article) that younger woman won’t find you attractive because you are older? Well, frankly, it’s all in your head. As soon as you walk up to a girl that’s 5, 10, or 15 years younger than you, you automatically have this little voice in the back of your head saying, “She’s so young and hot, and I’ll be lucky if I can get her because she’s a young hottie, and can get anyone.” Or, better yet, “I’ll go talk to her. I’m old, and fat, but oh well, it’s worth a try…” NO, NO NO!!!

Let’s go over a few principles before I continue:

Never apologize for yourself, and how you are. Women do not find this attractive. This means that if you think you’re too old, and you think young whipper snappers have higher value than you just because they’ve been on the earth less time than you have, you’re DEAD WRONG! Don’t ever make an excuse for your age to a woman, or even to yourself.

Never change yourself for other people. Just because you don’t have the trendiest clothes or the crazy new haircut doesn’t mean squat! Don’t try to compete with younger guys on their own turf, meaning don’t TRY to be younger. Don’t dress like it, don’t study pop culture in depth, and don’t have a cutesy little myspace page with 1,000 friends. In a nutshell, don’t CHANGE yourself to attract younger women. It doesn’t work like that.

Be YOU. Now, let’s not get this confused with the old cliché phrase “be yourself”. Generally, I see that “be yourself” is crappy advice for beginning and even intermediate guys improving themselves and their game. BE YOU means be comfortable with your age, your likes, your tastes, and goals.

Now, I’m not saying everyone couldn’t use a little improvement in areas. Check out GQ or another magazine and look at some of the trends for guys YOUR AGE. Pick what you like, discard the rest.

Don’t APOLOGIZE to yourself or anyone else for being interested in younger women. If that’s what you want, go for it. There’s absolutely no reason you cannot date younger women. Your looks, money, and possessions don’t matter one bit. What does matter is ATTRACTION, and none of that matters when talking about attraction. Attraction is an emotional response to a person, and is not governed by the same rules as for a man (i.e. men are attracted to younger women for physical reasons, while generally speaking, women are not so concerned with physical appearance). Good news for you geezers. Haha. Kidding.

If a woman feels attraction for a man, then nothing else really matters. Looks, age, wealth, religion, peer pressure from friends, and family, and all of that junk falls by the wayside.

Think about all the women that you treated wonderfully that passed you up for the jerks… and the women “friends” that you wanted more from. They tell you how mean or inconsiderate their boyfriends act while you’re sitting there thinking “I’d chop off my pinky for one date with you.”

The root problem is not age, or anything else… They simply did not feel ATTRACTION for you.

But, here’s the good news. It is possible to learn the skills and develop yourself into a man that women find INCREDIBLY ATTRACTIVE. It’s a skill, that later, with enough dedication, will become an unshakable part of you that no one can take away. I’m here to tell you from personal experience that it’s worth every minute of it, and with today’s resources and technology, you can gain more knowledge and information on the subject than you can possibly imagine.

For starters, check out this website, and the information here. I’ve spent hundreds of hours trying to make this the most reliable and truthful website on the subject of success with women that it can possibly be. It’s important that you find honest information from someone that’s been where you are, and used the internet as the primary tool (and DVD/CD programs) to help find my way to massive success. I’d recommend checking out my free e-course on the left. I put tons of effort into it. Writing and self development is my passion as well as improving others success with women. It’s got EVERYTHING IMAGINEABLE on the subject from techniques, tricks, mindsets, date ideas, experiences, do’s and don’ts, and much more.

In addition, I personally review each and every program that I’ve watched including the most powerful DVDs and CDs known to man for improving your dating and success with women- NO QUESTION! There’s a lot of bad information out there, but also tons of good information. I’ll help you distinguish the good from the bad in my Product Reviews Section coming soon!

To Your Success,

Brittan Benz

P.S. I can hear the negative talk already about how I picked "STARS" as an example. Look, movie stars have the same principles too. These women that date older men can literally date ANYONE in the world. They're beautiful, rich, and famous. There's plenty of men their age that are handsome, rich, famous, and not 10+ years their senior, yet some of them end up being attracted to older men.

This works the same for non-movie stars too, so cut down the negative talk already!!!!! :)

Visual vs. Behavioral Cues

2010-03-29T09:31:00.000-07:00

Let’s go back in time. Back to the time when guys like you and I carried clubs, slept in caves, and probably had some pretty funky hygiene by today’s standards. Back thousands of years ago, as cavemen, bad breath and stylish hair were the least of our concerns.

OK, so let’s say you’re a cave woman. How do you know which caveman to pick? Which one will you be attracted to? Is it the Abercrombie caveman model? Is there such thing as a physically attractive caveman?

Maybe. But, women don’t respond to physical attraction the way that men do. While men are attracted to VISUAL cues, women are attracted to BEHAVIORAL cues. What do I mean? Women respond to a more subconscious level of communication to decide whether or not they are attracted to a man, while men can decide almost instantly whether or not they are willing to have sex with a woman. Just observe the picture above and to the right for an obvious example. J

This is AWSOME! Why? Because if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, and have his money, then you are MORE than capable of attracting beautiful women. You’re bald? Fat? Ultra Hairy? You have warts? Great, because it really does NOT matter when talking about attracting beautiful women. If this information is new to you, I suggest you check out my free newsletter to the right!

I’ll continue. Again, women respond to sub communication from men to determine whether or not they are attractive. Think of a light switch versus a volume knob. You, as a man, act like a light switch to get aroused or attracted, while women act more like a volume knob. It takes a woman longer to decide whether or not a man is attractive.

Let’s break this idea of sub communication down even further. Sub communication involves things that are not actually spoken. It includes body language, voice tonality, posture, eye contact, and other things. In fact 98% of your communication is in your sub communication and humans (especially women) can pick up on the cues very easily. There are two types of sub communication: cues in YOUR sub communication, and cues in how people REACT to you.

Think of a celebrity who has weak sub communication, but still has a lot of people reacting to him- women may still perceive him as attractive. Or, take a normal guy who is in a 1 on 1 situation with a woman, and he has strong sub communication- she can still look at him and feel attracted.

In order to attract and keep women attracted, I suggest developing your sub communication. This is WAY MORE powerful than any technique or pickup line. In fact, if you have strong sub communication, you can literally say ANYTHING to attract a woman.

Sub communication and your behavioral cues ultimately project what’s going on inside of you, your confidence level, whether or not you car what people think of you, and whether or not you NEED the woman’s approval (which you shouldn’t). Additionally, if you feel confident, you aren’t looking for approval, and you’re comfortable in your own skin, ANYTHING you say will attract women on a primal level.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

David Deangelo Mailbag: Making Women Feel Attraction For You

2010-03-29T09:25:00.000-07:00

“Making Women Feel ATTRACTION For You” - August 19, 2001

Sometimes I think that us guys were given some bad wiring at birth when it comes to dealing with women...

Let me explain.

Several years ago, when I first started learning how to really be more successful with women and dating, I thought that the best way to make a woman like me would be to treat her nice.

"Be a nice guy."

This only makes sense, right? You be nice, she'll be nice.

Well, it's KIND of right, only it's WRONG.

Now, I'm not saying that you should treat women badly, but I am saying that you have to do things that are interesting and ATTRACTIVE with her, not just NICE.

Have you ever known a guy that has a lot of women as "friends" but none of them want to be with him in a "romantic" way?

Well, I get emails all the time from guys who say things like "I really like this girl, but she says that she just likes me as a friend."

They want to know what to do in order to make the woman feel attracted to them as a lover. Have you ever been in this situation? Me neither.

Since it's never happened to either one of us, I'm going to tell you what to do IF it ever happens to you... ha.

I personally believe that there are certain things that make women feel ATTRACTED to men, and there are certain things that make them feel FRIENDSHIP toward men.

As I've said before, ATTRACTION is something that usually happens without the woman being in control of it.

"Attraction isn't a choice."

Let me ask you... when you see a woman that you're attracted to, do you say to yourself "Hm, she looks like an intelligent, beautiful woman. I think I'm going to turn on my attraction mechanism and feel attracted to her" ???

Heck no. You feel attracted to her in YOUR GUT.

You FEE the attraction, THEN think about it. And even if you have known someone for awhile, and you begin to feel that attraction after knowing her for awhile, it always happens before you "realize" that you're attracted.

Well, the same thing happens inside of women. And they don't control it either.

I'm going to teach you a couple of my favorite ways to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

First of all, let me teach you a principle from the field of psychology:

PEOPLE TEND TO WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T OR DON'T HAVE.

You only want things you don't have.

Once you GET something, it KILLS the "wanting" feeling that you had.

One of my favorite ways to make a woman feel attracted to me is to play hard to get! I just use the old female technique in reverse! I know this sounds far out, but stay with me here.

I've already taught you how to get phone numbers. Once you've gotten a phone number or email address, now you have to figure out how to begin playing hard to get.

For instance: Let's say that you're talking to a girl on the phone, and you say "Hey, let's get a cup of tea sometime this week and enjoy some stimulating conversation... when do you work?"

Let's say she replies by saying that she can do it on Wednesday.

Here's your chance to begin playing hard to get.

You reply with "Let's see... I'm going to be busy on Wednesday, and I can't do it on Tuesday. So let's do it on Thursday."

Are you with me here?

She'll immediately think something like "Wow, he's busy a lot" and, if you're lucky "I wonder if he has another date...?"

Here's another one: Make sure you're the first one to end all conversations, phone calls, IM sessions online, etc.

I first got this idea when I read the book "The Rules"... yea, the one for women.

When you're the one who ends the conversations first, it creates a little bit of tension and triggers that "attraction" feeling.

Let's say you were on the phone, and you made plans to get together soon. As soon as it's set, say "OK, I'm going to go. I'll see you then."

Most women aren't used to having a guy be the one to end a conversation first. They're used to guys hanging on them and bugging them.

When you say "OK, I'm going to go..." it creates an immediate feeling of tension. Make it just a little bit abrupt.

And don't be surprised if she says "Hey, where are you going so fast?" Make sure you don't stay on the phone if this happens! This means you got her interest.

Just hang up, and keep it up in the future.

Remember, end all conversations, calls, IM sessions online, etc. FIRST. It creates tension and attraction. It makes women curious and it makes them think about you.

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Your Friend,

David D.

The College Scene

2010-03-24T10:56:00.000-07:00

Attracting Women: The College Scene

So you want to know how to score those college chicks? - the hot sorority girls, and the girls wanting to live up their college years. The ones fresh out of the nest, and looking to spread their wings. Well, I like to think I know a little bit about college life considering I’ve done it, and I had some pretty decent success.

Why College Game Is A Little Bit Different

OK, if you’ve read, or seen other things online about attracting women, you’ve most likely seen or heard of the “pickup gurus” like mystery, juggler, Tyler Durden, and others. If not, let me be the first to tell you that these guys are AWSOME with women. Flat out, they know their stuff. You’ll also hear people say things like “Does mystery method work?” or “Does Formula ______ work?” Well, yeah, it works for them, and who knows, maybe it works for you.

But, the college scene is a little different. See, the gurus teach you how to go out in field and make connections, and build attraction with people you’ve never met. And, if you don’t meet them RIGHT THEN, you may never see them again.

College Is Social

College is a “social scene”, and the guys who have the most success with women understand this scene, and rise to the top of it, and if you’re not in the right social circle, then you’ll be limited in your selection of women.

If you can cold approach a girl in a mall and create an attraction, then great, but that’s probably not going to be your best asset in the college arena. Think of the college scene as a tribe (a large one if you’re talking about a big school), and everyone is connected in some way. You have the top “leaders”, and you have the lower, less alpha males. Which one do you want to be?

Real World vs. College Social Hierarchy

Scene #1: Dallas night scene in the early summer. Lots of different people. You visit one of the popular bars or night clubs. A place like this is a one-time event, and it’s very unlikely you’ll see most of the people ever again. There’s no clear pre-existing social hierarchy simply because most people don’t know other people in the venue.

Scene #2: A night in college starts about 9:30, and a group starts pre-partying at a house, with people that have known each other for several years. After a few games of beer pong, or drinking games, you might venture to a local bar, frat house, or house party. Here you’ll find people looking around spotting people they know, making conversation, and guys will be high-fiving, and the atmosphere is generally friendly. Girls will be scanning the room for people they know, and if there’s a strong Greek life, and lots of fraternity guys and sorority girls, this atmosphere of everyone knowing everyone will be much stronger. College parties quickly turn into groups of 3-6 meeting at the same place, and this grows into a large group of 100 or more people connected together when you consider the connections that everyone has to one another via mutual friends.

Seeing these parameters, you can probably understand why lines and routines DO NOT work in this environment. This environment has everything to do with SOCIAL HIERARCHY.

The Mindset Of A College Girl

Let’s face it. In this environment, girls ASSUME that they will meet guys day in, and day out, through their daily activities. Here’s their thought process:

What Guys I Might Hook Up With?
What Guys Do I Know Who Can Introduce Me To Guys I Might Hook Up With?
What Girls Do I Know That Might Introduce Me To Guys I Might Hook Up With?
Get Drunk…

You see, girls aren’t going out with the same mindset as they would a bar or outside of college with the “I want to get hit on” mentality. Girls in college tend to be pretty close minded to the idea of meeting people outside of the large “social circle”, and especially the younger ones (freshman and sophomores). These girls are going out with the “selecting” mindset. They are constantly reading social cues and your behavior towards other guys as well as your interactions with other females.

The pre-selection you must demonstrate is with your actions and personality traits, and not with your words. Sorry, your “real world game” will only make you look like an outsider in this environment.

A Few Things To Get You In The “IN” Crowd

Be honest with yourself, you know who the “IN” crowd is. You know that sorority, or fraternity that is always the center of social interactions. Guess what? If you aren’t in it, it’s OK, I’ve got a few tips, and ideas for you to think about.

1. Introduce yourself to some of the people- DUH! But, you’d be surprised how many people don’t think about this. You have to put yourself out there. Maybe you have class with some of them, hang out with them, talk to them, and genuinely get to know them. Let’s say the group on campus that’s the in crowd is fraternity/fraternities, and you’re totally opposed to the “frat guy” attitude or type. Don’t be too quick to judge. A lot of these guys are really cool. Give them a chance, and they’ll give you a chance. As with any type of social interaction, don’t be NEEDY. Don’t act like you HAVE to have these guys so that you’ll be cool. That’s ridiculous, and if you act this way, you certainly won’t be making any new friends. Be cool, don’t call them 9 times a day, and offer VALUE to the situation (Tyler Durden’s Concept).

2. Assume value- once you begin to know some people in the group, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to others, and ASSUME you’re in the group, and they should ALREADY know you.

3. Greek Scene- I keep bringing this up because the Greek scene at lots of schools has the hottest females. It’s just a fact. Don’t be negative about this group. Remember, when in Rome, do as the Romans do. Some of these guys are really cool- get connected with them. If you’re in the Greek scene, be honest with yourself, are you in one of the cool ones that always has the best parties and social events, or are you maybe 2^nd or 3^rd tier. If you aren’t the top dog, it’s OK. Get to know the ones that are. You gotta be honest with yourself.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

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Social Circle of Gloom or Doom

2010-03-23T10:47:00.000-07:00

Social Circle of
Gloom Or Doom

Let’s face it, many, many, MANY of the people that you interact with are from your social circle. Your friends, family, and co-workers all know people, who know people,who know people. Think of it as a big spider web with you smack in the middle of it. You’ve got all these people you know (some very well, and others not so well), but nonetheless you have met them and interacted with them a handful of times at minimum. If you’re a very social, outgoing person then you may interact with more than someone who hasn’t quite spread the web out very far.

Now, since 50% of the human population is roughly women (sorry to my Japanese readers as this may not be the case in Japan with its demographics issues), these people or at least some of them know single women… duh. So, the logical thing to do is spread your wings, and find out who knows the single women.

WARNING!: If you have friends that are single, attractive females, whatever you do, don’t hang out with them! That’s wayyy to easy to meet hot women. It just wouldn’t be fair to everyone else…

Alright, enough with the sarcasm. Seriously, hot single women have other hot single friends; it’s a fact of life. Be careful about “acting” like a girl’s friend when really, you have other motives. You don’t have to try and get every hot girl. If you have any single female friends, just be friends with them. Due yourself a favor and keep that one as a friend. It will lead to some promising benefits.

Are you starting to get the idea here? Take your “social web” and broaden it, but also strengthen it. Be willing to get out there and make some new friends. Don’t always hang out with your guy friends that play XBOX all day and night. I’m not suggesting lose your friends, but broaden your horizons. Go out with some co-workers you don’t hang out with, start a new activity like yoga or tennis (I love the tennis skirts), hang out with a guy you met in class, join some sort of club, plan social gatherings at your house or wherever, and join your different social clicks together or make conversation with new people. The more experiences you have, the more women you’ll meet.

Now, a lot of women congregate at bars and night clubs. I’ve purposely left this out til the end. Bars and night clubs are so interesting to me, yet scare the crap out of a lot of men. Well, I’ve got a few suggestions for you in this area. One, make friends with the bartenders and bouncers. How? TALK TO THEM. At first, any small talk will do, maybe offer to get the bouncer some water or something non-alcoholic to drink. Chat it up with them. They’ll start to remember you, and it sure helps with the long lines if you know them.

Another idea I absolutely LOVE is becoming or getting involved with promoting the club. Ask if you can get a job doing this part time, or if that doesn’t work, offer your part-time services for FREE just to get involved. Do you know how easy and effortlessly you can walk up to a group of girls and start promoting the club that you’re associated with? Plus, being a “club promoter” carries a certain type of social status position simply when you say it. Or, ask if you could simply HELP one of the club promoters. Maybe you’ll have to do some grunt work that’s not glamorous, but it’s a doorway into the realm so to speak. Google some things about promoting clubs, night clubs, marketing clubs, being a promoter, and learn a little about it.

If you don’t wanna do that, become a bartender. Go to bartending school, and start working for one of the night clubs or bars. It can be fun, and also gives you an “in”. If you’re a big guy, work security. All these ideas get you involved, and make you an insider in this realm. Research this stuff and BE PERSISTENT in getting involved. If you’re denied one way, ask what you CAN do to get involved. Being involved with the night club scene is a great way to meet women that frequent these areas, and expand your social web.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

The List

2010-03-22T23:41:00.000-07:00

The List

1 1. Eye Contact

2. Vocal Tonality

3. Body Language
4. Sense of individuality

5. Humor and Playfulness

6. Comfort in your environment

7. Indifference to what people think of you

8. Concepts and personal boundaries of what you will and will not accept
9. Control over your own emotions and own sense of reality

10. Confidence to say what’s on your mind and stand out

11. Self directedness conviction and grasp of your own standards

12. Sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want

13. Emotion and types of things you say all in relation to people there

If you’ve read some of my other stuff, you probably know I like to revert back to primal attraction, and to our caveman days. Again, don’t get too caught up in this, I’m just using this to make a point and a thought experiment. Please, don’t start carrying a club, and not shaving. The list above sums up your behaviors and what defines whether or not women feel attraction for you. That’s it, there’s no magic behind it now. It’s no longer a mystery. This is it. Not money. Not looks.

OK, say you’re the boss caveman and have high status in the tribe, and have lots of women and attraction, and then somehow you lose the boss caveman status. How do the women know to stop hooking up with you? THEY CAN FEEL IT. They can feel the status change, and the demeanor of how you behave shifts.

Alternatively, what if you’re a wussy or chode caveman, and you gain high status in the tribe, how do the women know to start hooking up with you? THEY CAN FEEL IT. Behavioral patterns and cues change within you, and now you’ve got all the cavewomen.

So, if attraction is still working in the same way that it used to (and it is), what does this mean for you? Well, unlike thousands of years ago, you can take BOSS CAVEMAN status at any point. Simply by giving yourself permission to do so. There isn’t another boss caveman that’s going to smash your head on a rock if you give yourself boss caveman status. All you must do is simply give yourself permission to be a man that projects the list of qualities above, and not give a DAMN what people say about it. Do not underestimate “giving yourself permission”. In any of the David Deangelo or Real Social Dynamics this is a huge topic. It sounds simple, but is usually the MOST difficult thing for men to do.

Give Yourself Permission To Succeed.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

Welcoming Rejection

2010-03-20T14:48:00.000-07:00

Welcoming Rejection

Why on god’s green earth would you welcome rejection, and what does that even mean? Think about it for a second. What if you walked up to a woman that you thought to be attractive, and started a conversation with the mind frame that you accepted rejection and thought that it may be a possibility, or better yet, you welcomed it, or welcomed it.

When I say “welcome rejection”, I don’t mean the welcoming where you think “Oh man, here it goes, this girl is probably won’t like me. I don’t know what to say, and she’s so pretty, and probably has all these other things going in her life. Why would she even like me? Here it comes, I’m about to be shut down…” No. That’s welcoming rejection from a mind frame of the wussy or being a chode (credits for these terms go to David Deangelo and Real Social Dynamics).

What if, instead of thinking you may get rejected by a woman, and it hurt your self-esteem, ego, and your manhood, or whatever, you thought that every time you approach a woman, it’s a learning experience, and a time to show yourself that NO MATTER WHAT A WOMAN SAYS OR DOES, YOU WILL STILL BE STANDING, YOU’LL STILL BE A MAN, AND IT’S AN OPPORTUNITY TO SHOW YOURSELF YOU CAN TAKE IT, AND GROW IN YOUR MANHOOD BECAUSE YOU DON’T NEED HER OR ANY OTHER WOMAN TO PROVE YOUR VALUE OR TO VALIDATE YOU.

That’s what I mean by welcoming rejection. Any time a woman shuts you down, or is not interested in you, think of THIS rather than the chode alternative “she-doesn’t-want-to-talk-to-me-so-it-must-be-something-about-ME” idea.

What I’ve done here is take the idea of rejection, and reframe it. Reframing is an inner game strategy used and discussed frequently in the seduction/pickup community (although I hate this terminology of “pickup” community and all that). Something to think about next time you walk up to a woman.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

The Self Is Always Coming Through

2010-03-16T11:54:00.000-07:00

The Self Is Always Coming Through

The title makes it sound like I’m about to go off onto some pretty deep, complicated analysis of all this stuff, and really all you want to know is how to get girls, right?

What does “the self is always coming through” mean? I originally got the phrase from Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics. Tyler basically says that you can’t hide what’s going on inside of you when you’re speaking with a woman. Sure, you can use techniques, and say things that will mask up your inner game, but ultimately, sooner or later, the inside/core beliefs/ inner game will prevail. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, your beliefs, and what you have to say, how can anyone else? If you don’t know what YOU value, how can anyone else value you?!

This is GREAT news! Let’s say you’re a really cool guy. You know what you value in life, and you don’t let society dictate your values, you respect yourself above all else, you know what you appreciate in life, and you know that you have high value. You walk up to a woman and say something totally off the wall and ridiculous. “Hey, I like chapstick. My favorite flavor is peach chapstick.” Guess what? She’s going to feel attraction for you if you’ve developed a “Core Confidence” On the flipside, let’s say you don’t believe you are a worthy guy, you think that the woman you’re about to approach is really attractive, and deep down, you don’t think that you deserve her. You can approach her and say the sweetest story about anything, and it’s not going to stick. She won’t FEEL the attraction. The self is always coming through. ..

This is great news because if you’re a cool, confident guy, you don’t have to mess with memorizing lines, thinking about what to say all the time, and worrying about things that simply don’t matter when attracting women. If you haven’t reached this level, I would suggest that you keep working on yourself, and there’s work to be done! If the thought of “the self is always coming through” scares you right now, don’t worry. First, accept that this thought is a little scary, and then move onto seeing how you can accept this truth and deal with it. First, I’d suggest checking out my free e-course and you can signup over on the right. I unveil all the best material for attracting women that I’ve ever read, or seen! Next, I’d check out the product reviews. I help you select the best products in the industry of self improvement and improving your dating life. This is coming soon so stay in contact with the blog!

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

Solid Text Game

2010-03-15T16:15:00.000-07:00

Solid Text Game

Texting women has recently become a large part in attracting, and communication. It’s a great tool for building attraction. But, if you don’t understand the intricacies of the “text game” it can also shoot you in the foot.

So, what do you want to communicate when you’re texting? Well, the same thing you want to ALWAYS communicate to women: dominance, playfulness, non-neediness, confidence, value ect. ect. Nothing magical here. But, I personally think the most important things particularly to texting is PLAYFULNESS, and non-neediness. I always keep texting playful, and fun. Use this as an opportunity to make witty remarks about past interactions you’ve had, or inside jokes between you two. Lightly make fun of her or call her names like dork, nerd, homie. Basically, all the things you want to do in person, or over the phone apply to texting. But, I’ve got some more specific rules (more like guidelines) to help better explain myself.

1. USE SUSPENSE- don’t respond more quickly than she does- this builds suspense and conveys non-neediness.

2. Don’t be afraid to END a texting conversation/session- if you’ve been texting back and forth for awhile, and the text messages seem energetic, fun, and you feel like she’s really starting to enjoy it… STOP! Yes, that’s what I meant, stop texting. Don’t say “bye”, “haha well I have to go”, “see ya later”, or anything, just don’t respond back. So, what does this do? Well, for one it leaves her wanting more, and she now is left with a positive, energetic vibe from the interaction.

3. Build ATTRACTION not friendship.

4. Don’t be BORING or predictable

Seems obvious, right? Well, you’d be surprised. Here’s some example conversations not to do:

You: Hey, what’s up?

Her: Not much. About to blah blah…..

You: Cool. I’m blah blah blah. What are you doing later?

Her: I don’t know. Probably blah blah blah….

You: Cool. Well, you wanna hang out later?

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

This is so boring. No attraction. No fun. No Playfulness, and it’s taking value by asking her what she’s doing, and offering ZERO value. This brings me to my next point.

Offer Value.

If you’re new to this type of material, then this might not make sense. You know that feeling you get when someone constantly wants something from you. The constant nagging, or always wondering what you are doing because they don’t have their own plans, and just want to “tag along” all the time? Or, when someone is yearning for your approval? This is taking value. What you want to do is OFFER value. Here’s some text examples:

Taking Value

“hey, what are you doing?”
“What’s up?”
“Is that Ok?”
“Can you…”
“Will you…”

Offering Value

Tell funny story
Tell your plans
Tell YOUR thoughts
A funny thing you saw

Never second guess yourself, EVER! Whatever you want to say, say it. If you think it’s funny. Say it.

The Golden Rule
Here it is. The one thing that will allow you to say the right thing every time, with perfect timing, and never “mess up”. You ready… SELF AMUSEMENT. There it is. If whatever you are saying/doing amuses YOU, then you can’t go wrong. Self-amusement says all the right things about you. It makes you non-needy, non-outcome dependent, funny, and confident. WARNING: if used correctly, you are unstoppable. But, in case you still need some tips, here’s some personal favorites of mine. Don’t wear them out J

Openers To Starting Text Conversations
“Hey 3^rd favorite brat, what are you doing?”
“Wow, I’ve got you on lock down. You just opened your phone for no reason.”
“You wouldn’t believe the dream I had last night”
“I’m luring women to my house with candy. Do you prefer skittles or M&M’s?”

(bring whichever to next meeting)
(Do in person, whichever they say, pull out of pocket, pop one in your mouth, and say “want a skittle/M&M?”

“Smile if you masturbate” (say while in same room. Then you catch her smiling.)
“Girls are gross..”
“Just saw on the news burnt body found in _______. It’s fatter and has an abnormally small brain. Please let me know if you’re alright!!!”
(caution, make sure she’s really attractive, and has lots of self confidence before you say this one)

“Hey! I really want to see you but the dang security guard won’t let me in the zoo! Can you escape?”

“If you ever disappear while hiking, I’d remain in the search party until it started raining”

“Quick, respond to this text. Anything!”
Her: “blah blah….”
You: “Ok good. I had to prove to my friend that monkey/retards could text J”

Remember, self amusement. Get creative.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

The Newbie Quest

2010-03-12T15:38:00.000-08:00

The Newbie Quest

“Woa! There’s guys out there just like me that want to learn how to pickup chicks!”

“Dude, the internet is filled with information about dating women, and pickup artistry!”

“I want to get a girlfriend. I wonder if there is any information online about this?”

“How do I get hot chicks? Let’s look it up online…”

“I bet the internet has information that can help me be better with women. I really like reading the awesome articles in men’s health and GQ” (Don’t listen to this junk… at all!)

If you’ve thought any of these thoughts, or anything similar to this in the last sayyyy…. 6 months, then I hate to admit it, but you’re probably still considered a newbie (new guy) in terms of improving your life with women and dating as far as this community goes. I’m not trying to bust on you or anything, but typically you would still fall into the newbie category. If you’re still memorizing tons of openers, surfing the internet for pickup lines, or using “cocky funny” like it’s the mother of all concepts, then you probably haven’t reached the level of success that you ultimately want to have. See, the pattern for learning a new skill set or mindset goes like this:

1. Find a new area you want to learn (in this case improving success with opposite sex), and you chase after the “surface level techniques”, and “magic pills” for instant gratification and fast results

2. You use your new techniques for awhile until you realize that you aren’t maintaining your initial level of improvement, and then you get frustrated (and maybe quit and drop out of the area for awhile)

3. You COME FULL CIRCLE and seek out principles you show have known ALL ALONG in order to make the techniques really work, and in the process you wind up disregarding a lot of old techniques because they’re redundant

4. You reach a level of total mastery and internalization, where you’ve got the new skill set you want, and you can enjoy maintaining in the course of your day to day life

I give you this insight because I think it’s important that you be aware of the steps and to help you see where you are. Guess what? If you fall into #1 or #2… IT’S OK! I was there for TWO YEARS+, and don’t think for a second that I’d take back any of it. Every man that has improved himself drastically in this area has been there, and don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s a journey, and you must learn to enjoy the ride.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

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The Three Letter Word To Success With Women And Dating

2010-03-11T12:13:00.000-08:00

The Three Letter Word To Success

Today I was reviewing the Approaching Women Series by David Deangelo, and it reminded me of the most basic, core principles for attracting women. It’s soo easy to remember, it applies in any situation, and it’s what everyone around you wants. It’s a three letter word that is crucial and I mean BY FAR one of the most important principles you will ever hear. You ready?...

F-U-N! Fun. Having fun, making sure everyone else is having fun is soo important that I can’t stress it enough. I like this concept because if your main, true goal is to have fun, and make sure others are having fun, then your success with women will drastically improve. It will help eliminate fears, and concerns, and if you genuinely just want to have fun, people can feel it.

Another piece that goes along with fun is self amusement. Self amusement goes hand in hand with fun. When you’re out and about running errands, getting coffee, eating lunch, at a house party, or in a club, self amusement will take you places. Cut loose, forget what everyone else is doing or saying, and do what YOU want to do. Why? Because when everything is said and done, what does it really matter what a group of random strangers thinks of you? Act goofy, have fun, and amuse yourself. I think you’ll be AMAZED at how many little issues resolve themselves by concentrating on this one thing. Women want to have fun, and joke around, tease them constantly, crack funny jokes, and know that you’re the life of the party.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

P.S. Self Amusement, and having fun are two BIG keys for me, and I learned them from studying material from seminars, and online material. Real Social Dynamic’s Blueprint Decoded really helped me see the power in this. Check out my reviews of different products in my product reviews section section. If you don't see it over there, it's coming soon! Or, if you’d like to check out the most amazing free e-course for opening the lid off your core, and experiencing a life of sexual abundance, check out my Origins E-course. You can signup on the right by giving your name and email address!

What Is Social Conditioning?

2010-03-10T14:55:00.000-08:00

What is Social Conditioning? Is It Bad?

First I would like to give credit to Tyler of RSD for the concepts discussed in this article. He provided most of the insight and the ideas, but I thought it would by nice to reiterate it here!

We live in an incredible period of human history. We send human beings to the moon, for a few hundred bucks we can fly around the world, and you’re on your computer right now with access to any type of information on anything imaginable within seconds. You can connect with anyone around the world at anytime.

But, when it comes down to understanding exactly how some of these things work, do you completely understand it? Take the computer you’re using for example. If you had all the little chips, pieces, and wires layed out on the ground, could you rebuild it, and explain how each piece of the computer interacted, or connected with other pieces? Or, take your car or whatever mode of transportation method you use. Do you understand exactly how it works? How each piece of the car is used to help run the car in excruciating detail?

Some may understand how it works to an extent if you’re educated on the subject, and even still you don’t really, really, really understand how it works.

Point being, it’s a natural tendency to give authority to society. Your mind is subconsciously telling itself “Hey, if society understands this, then it must be right about everything else”. It’s very easy to get into the habit of giving authority to society. I mean, every second of your life, your being influenced by social conditioning.

Humans learn really, really fast, and as a species, it’s one of our greatest strengths. As humans, we can learn in one of two ways:

1. Firsthand Experience

2. Society (Secondhand)

Here’s an example. Did you know that if you drink a gallon of gasoline, and then go excerise, it will actually make you have superhuman strength, and speed? Seriously. The gasoline contains enzymes that are digested, and turn into this form of human rocketfuel! It’s what all the world class sprinters drink before meets. You could be a world class sprinter too if you tried it.

Right, here comes the part where you tell me it’s not true, and I’m lying. Everyone’s a critic. What’s really going to happen if you drink a gallon of gasoline? You’ll probably need immediate medical attention, and you may die.

But, how did you know that? What happened last time you drank a gallon of gasoline? OH, You’ve NEVER DONE IT?? So, how do you know I’m wrong? What gives you the authority to say I’m wrong? If you’re now willing to prove me wrong, what gives you the right? At some point, you learned that gasoline is poisonous to injest whether it be from mom, dad, TV or other source. You learned it socially!

So, elsewhere people say “Oh. I hate social conditioning.” You HATE SOCIAL CONDITIONING?! If you don’t want to drink gasoline, and become majorly ill or die, you don’t hate social conditioning!

See, that’s why social conditioning and this information is confusing, because in most cases, social conditioning is a good thing, and a huge asset to your survival. Without it, who knows what you’d do or try that may harm you. People are constantly looking to other people to learn and see who they can learn off of. But, you see, unless you’re aware of this, you may have allowed many of your thoughts, and what’s valuable to you, to be shaped by social conditioning and other people. Advertising and the media are constantly sending you messages on what to value, and who you are, and what you should be in order to fit into society.

Now, it’s important to understand that I’m not trying to create some weird cult thing, or some crazy anti-government or anti-society thinking, or anything like that. I love movies, food, fast cars, and TV shows like entourage, lost, and 24 (jack bauer is awesome). It’s more than OK to appreciate and really like these things. I mean, where would we be without society and it’s amazing innovation. It’s allowed us leisure time, and the ability to appreciate these things.

All I’m saying is allow yourself to hold both concepts. Social Conditioning vs. finding your own values, beliefs and concepts. Decide what you find interesting, what you value in people, and what you believe, and don’t let society dictate that to you.

So, what in the heck does this have to do with rockstar success with women? Having your own set of values and beliefs, and knowing what you value out of life is DEADLY in attracting beautiful women. Instantly, you become a person centered in your own reality, you don’t let women have power over you, you have absolute confidence in yourself because you’re not looking to other or society to tell you what to say, what to think or how to act around women. You’re a REAL MAN,and beautiful women can see this INSTANTLY when talking to you.

I encourage you to really, really take some time with yourself and think about what you value, and what you believe. What’s valuable to you? What qualities do you want in a woman? What personal goals do you have? Forget what people want from you or expect from you. Don’t be afraid to write them down, and make them concrete. Keep it with you, and don’t be afraid to modify, change or delete.

If you’re new to the idea of improving your success with women, some of this may be too advanced for you, and you may still be in the beginning stages of understanding women, and developing yourself into an attractive man. If so, let me direct you to some other sources that may be more beneficial in the beginning. My e-course newsletter is a great resource and you can signup for it on your right by giving me your first name and email. This stuff is GREAT if you’re a beginner or advanced. Also, check out my product reviews that I will be providing soon via this blog!

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

Why You FEAR Rejection and Overcoming Fear From Women

2010-03-09T14:48:00.000-08:00

Why you have FEAR of Rejection & Overcoming Fear

Many men fear rejection from women. It’s not just you. Let me explain where this fear of rejection originates.

You see that hot woman in the restaurant, the bookstore, the party, or wherever and you feel the desire to talk to her and meet her. You feel the desire to talk to her, and at the VERY SAME TIME, you feel the overwhelming fear of ‘what if she rejects me?’ or ‘what if she doesn’t like me?’ You feel the DANGER of approaching her, and it actually feels like it may lead to some sort of physicial pain or harm if you approach her. Does this sound familiar?

First, let me just say that you are not alone, and many men (I’d say most) feel these feelings. You feel like you have two desires pulling you into two opposing directions. What’s that about?

A guy can psyche himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes for him to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING CHANGES.

The heart rate doubles, breath quickens, and eventually the pressure becomes overpowering as you think of one excuse after the other as to why you should NOT approach, and why this is NOT a good time, and what about the situation isn’t just right.

Notice how the article is titled “& Overcoming Fear”. It doesn’t say, “avoiding rejection”. It’s important to distinguish the difference between the FEAR of rejection and the rejection itself. Personally, I’ve found that my fear of rejection is far, far worse than the actual ‘rejection’ itself. The more you approach women, and have them respond positively, the less you’ll imagine things going terribly wrong, and realize most of the stuff you’ve imagined is just cooked up in your head, and the terrible events you’ve imagined are highly unlikely.

THE KEY TO SUCCESS WITH WOMEN: LEARN HOW WOMEN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR ME

Here’s something you’ve probably never thought of. There are men out there, just like you and me, that have an uncanny ability to attract women, and they do NOT have amazingly good looks, lots of money, or use traditional romance.

For a long time, I believed that it was a mysterious, lucky ACCIDENT when women felt attraction for men. Or, some magical star shot by giving them the magical gift of attracting women. Not so.

I’ve spent lots of time the last few years studying WHY women feel attraction for men, and I’m giving you all the keys to the kingdom. I’ve created an E-course called the Real Natural Men Origins E-course, and I break down things like the psychology of attraction, why men fear rejection, and more importantly, how to create INSANE, RAW ATTRACTION with women that you’ve always wanted, and how to ATTRACT WOMEN ANYTIME, AND ANYWHERE.

You’ll learn the most amazing techniques, principles, and tips to turning yourself into a man with ROCKSTAR success with women.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

Introduction To The Real Natural Men Blog

2010-03-08T11:53:00.000-08:00

Hello all:

So, here's the deal. A few years ago (I'd say about 3 years) I began to get into this stuff. Perhaps you have a similar story. You struggled with one particular girl, or had a crush on a girl that you really liked, and she either didn't like you back at any point. Or, she dropped you like rock and you were of course....crushed.

My guess is that you and I have pretty similar stories. A girl, in one way or another, broke your heart, and you turned to the internet for the solution, and the answer.

I don't remember exactly what I typed into Google, or the exact phrasing, but it was probably something like "why do women like men", or "how to get a girl to like you", or something along those lines.

If you do this, or search for something similar, you will eventually end up on a website promoting David Deangelo, or one of his actual websites.

From that moment, I was HOOKED. David D. does a great job of drawing you in, and really connecting to us men. We all have many of the same fears, and hangups, and if you watch a video program, or listen to an audio program you may sit there in amazement thinking, "Woa. I have that issue, too."

We all have our issues. Simply put.

I began listening to and watching every program, and ebook I could get my hands on. I can say, without hesitation, that I've listened to OVER 8 programs, beginning to end, of David Deangelo's DVD programs including Advanced Techniques, On Being A Man, Deep Inner Game, Bars and Clubs, Sexual Communication, Power Sexuality, Cocky Comedy, 77 Laws, Meeting Women Online, Many of the interviews with dating gurus, and, of course, the ebook that started it all, Double your Dating Ebook.

I can't thank David D. and all of the people involved with these programs enough. They've truly changed my life, and the way I think about the world. David D. is not the only "dating wizard" that I've studied. I've also watch many of the Real Social Dynamics (RSD) programs, and found that they contain information equally as meaningful.

Some of the programs were more impactful than others, but the real value, I believe, comes from simply being immersed in a different way of thinking, and listening to other men share their stories and successes.

So, enough rambling, what's this blog about:

This blog is an attempt to give you as much value as humanly possible when discussing women and dating, and the idea of attraction between men and women. I've read through TONS of websites, and audio programs, and all kinds of stuff. I've implemented much of it, while discarding a lot of it as well. In total, if I had to wrap a number around it, I'd say I've spent well over 1,000 hours studying this material.

Originally, this website was going to be setup to generate an income. I'll be honest, I initially had this content intended for a website to generate income for me.

But, I realized, after a few hundred hours of work, and a lot of thinking, that right now, I need to focus on bringing value to men, and helping them relate and understand their hangups, and hopefully learn some cool stuff along the way. This blog may not be the most organized, or the most fancy, but I aim to make the content GOLD.

So here are the goals of the blog:

1. Offer Value To Men In The Form Of Information About Women, Dating, Attraction, And Psychology.

2. Relay the information above through article posts, guest posts, videos, email list, or in any way that I possibly can. Sometimes, the posts may not be written by me. If I find a guest poster that is willing to post, and has a lot of value to offer, then I will allow them to post to the blog. Whatever is most valuable will win a spot as a blog post.

3. Connect with the community of men that have taken life by the balls, and decided that they'd like to change their lives for the better!

4. Provide advice, to the best of my ability, so that men may grow into more mature, healthy men (that includes me!)

I hope that you enjoy the posts, and are able to draw value from them, as well as connect with other men! I look forward to providing tons of value!

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz