Visual vs. Behavioral Cues

Let’s go back in time. Back to the time when guys like you and I carried clubs, slept in caves, and probably had some pretty funky hygiene by today’s standards. Back thousands of years ago, as cavemen, bad breath and stylish hair were the least of our concerns.

OK, so let’s say you’re a cave woman. How do you know which caveman to pick? Which one will you be attracted to? Is it the Abercrombie caveman model? Is there such thing as a physically attractive caveman?

Maybe. But, women don’t respond to physical attraction the way that men do. While men are attracted to VISUAL cues, women are attracted to BEHAVIORAL cues. What do I mean? Women respond to a more subconscious level of communication to decide whether or not they are attracted to a man, while men can decide almost instantly whether or not they are willing to have sex with a woman. Just observe the picture above and to the right for an obvious example. J

This is AWSOME! Why? Because if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, and have his money, then you are MORE than capable of attracting beautiful women. You’re bald? Fat? Ultra Hairy? You have warts? Great, because it really does NOT matter when talking about attracting beautiful women. If this information is new to you, I suggest you check out my free newsletter to the right!

I’ll continue. Again, women respond to sub communication from men to determine whether or not they are attractive. Think of a light switch versus a volume knob. You, as a man, act like a light switch to get aroused or attracted, while women act more like a volume knob. It takes a woman longer to decide whether or not a man is attractive.

Let’s break this idea of sub communication down even further. Sub communication involves things that are not actually spoken. It includes body language, voice tonality, posture, eye contact, and other things. In fact 98% of your communication is in your sub communication and humans (especially women) can pick up on the cues very easily. There are two types of sub communication: cues in YOUR sub communication, and cues in how people REACT to you.

Think of a celebrity who has weak sub communication, but still has a lot of people reacting to him- women may still perceive him as attractive. Or, take a normal guy who is in a 1 on 1 situation with a woman, and he has strong sub communication- she can still look at him and feel attracted.

In order to attract and keep women attracted, I suggest developing your sub communication. This is WAY MORE powerful than any technique or pickup line. In fact, if you have strong sub communication, you can literally say ANYTHING to attract a woman.

Sub communication and your behavioral cues ultimately project what’s going on inside of you, your confidence level, whether or not you car what people think of you, and whether or not you NEED the woman’s approval (which you shouldn’t). Additionally, if you feel confident, you aren’t looking for approval, and you’re comfortable in your own skin, ANYTHING you say will attract women on a primal level.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz

The List

The List

1 1. Eye Contact

2. Vocal Tonality

3. Body Language

4. Sense of individuality

5. Humor and Playfulness

6. Comfort in your environment

7. Indifference to what people think of you

8. Concepts and personal boundaries of what you will and will not accept

9. Control over your own emotions and own sense of reality

10. Confidence to say what’s on your mind and stand out

11. Self directedness conviction and grasp of your own standards

12. Sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want

13. Emotion and types of things you say all in relation to people there

If you’ve read some of my other stuff, you probably know I like to revert back to primal attraction, and to our caveman days. Again, don’t get too caught up in this, I’m just using this to make a point and a thought experiment. Please, don’t start carrying a club, and not shaving. The list above sums up your behaviors and what defines whether or not women feel attraction for you. That’s it, there’s no magic behind it now. It’s no longer a mystery. This is it. Not money. Not looks.

OK, say you’re the boss caveman and have high status in the tribe, and have lots of women and attraction, and then somehow you lose the boss caveman status. How do the women know to stop hooking up with you? THEY CAN FEEL IT. They can feel the status change, and the demeanor of how you behave shifts.

Alternatively, what if you’re a wussy or chode caveman, and you gain high status in the tribe, how do the women know to start hooking up with you? THEY CAN FEEL IT. Behavioral patterns and cues change within you, and now you’ve got all the cavewomen.

So, if attraction is still working in the same way that it used to (and it is), what does this mean for you? Well, unlike thousands of years ago, you can take BOSS CAVEMAN status at any point. Simply by giving yourself permission to do so. There isn’t another boss caveman that’s going to smash your head on a rock if you give yourself boss caveman status. All you must do is simply give yourself permission to be a man that projects the list of qualities above, and not give a DAMN what people say about it. Do not underestimate “giving yourself permission”. In any of the David Deangelo or Real Social Dynamics this is a huge topic. It sounds simple, but is usually the MOST difficult thing for men to do.

Give Yourself Permission To Succeed.

To Your Success,
Brittan Benz