Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Masturbating and It's Relationship To Attracting Women


Stifler: The Ultimate Horny Male (Just For Fun)
Currently… abstaining from masturbation for about 3 days.  Feelings- tense feeling in/surrounding pelvic region. Thoughts- Thinking about every hot girl that walks by, pops up on my computer, or even skips through my mind. Insatiable desire to have sex.  The first day is the hardest.  The 2nd day isn’t easy, and the third day sucks pretty bad too.
But, it does seem to get better after about 4 days.  You lose the intense feeling that at any point you may bust a huge, raging erection and pounce on the first attraction girl you see.
So, why put yourself through this abstention?  Sounds miserable doesn’t it?  There’s a good reason, don’t worry and I’ll get to that.  But, I’m doing it to study firsthand the effects of male masturbation and attracting women.
The Theories
I’ve heard several different theories about the effects of masturbation and attracting women.  So, let me run down a few of the very basics…
1.       NOT MASTURBATING increases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus enhancing the desire to pursue women.
2.       NOT MASTURBATING increases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus making you more uncomfortable, fidgety, and generally sporadic around women making you seem unsure and lack confidence
3.       MASTURBATING decreases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus decreasing your desire to pursue and attract women.  May also make you feel less interested, and have “casual” conversations with women rather than “attraction” based conversations with women
4.       MASTURBATING decreases sex drive, libido, and testosterone thus decreasing your desire to purse and attract women.  This results in feeling less detached from the outcome of conversing and interacting with women, thus, you come across as more confident and secure.
Of course, most theories are a combination of these 4.  But, it’s interesting that there’s so much wide debate on the subject.
I can share with you my personal experience with this, and how I feel when masturbating vs. not masturbating.
If I have participated in masturbating for a few days in a row (usually once a day) and then abstain I can usually tell a difference almost immediately.  The next day, the tension begins to build up inside.  Naturally, this is the first, and most obvious effect- you feel more horny.  Secondly, I noticed that I have more desire to be active.  I have increased motivation to exercise, get out of the house, accomplish and achieve.  So, as you can see, I’m not just talking about motivation to go out and meet women (this one seems rather obvious), but also the desire to simply be active and productive.
In contrast, and I’m sure you’ve probably experienced this,  when I masturbate frequently, I lack the desire to do productive things.  Instead, I’m more content to lay around the house, and definitely loose some desire to approach and meet women.  However, there’s also the connection for me to simply masturbate more.  So, say if I do it once earlier in the day, I want to do it again later on.  Addictive? Maybe.  But, there may be more to it.  Let's look more at Masturbating and Attracting Women
Effects Of Ejaculation On Testosterone Levels
As you know, testosterone is what makes you more masculine.  For women, it’s estrogen that makes them more feminine.  Both men and women have each, but men have more testosterone, and women more estrogen.  Simple enough.
In 2003, a case study was done on the effects on males in abstaining from masturbation and testosterone levels.  In a nutshell, the study found that testosterone levels increased gradually between days 1 through 5 when abstaining from ejaculation.  But, and this is the big ‘BUT’, on days six and seven, the testosterone levels saw a HUGE spike (up to 147% increase in body testosterone levels).  After day 7, the testosterone levels returned to normal.
In conclusion, the study found that abstaining from an ejaculation for 7 days was the effective number of days to abstain from ejaculating to reach peak levels of testosterone.

A different case study reported on an observation of male rats during post-ejaculation and sexual exhaustion phases.  The study found that after 4 days, only 63% of rats showed mating/sexual behavior.  But, after 7 days 100% of the rats showed the same.  The reoccurring number of 7 shows up again.
One thing to take away from this is that everyone may be a little bit different, but, there’s definitely a correlation between increased testosterone levels and abstinence for 5-7 days.
My personal experience dictates much of the same.
So, let’s take a deeper look into the theories I mentioned earlier.
The Loaded Gun Theory (There’s Something About Mary):
Script excerpt from the movie-
   Okay, sounds like you're all set. Just
           clean the pipes and it's a go.

     TED
           Hm?

     DOM
           You know, clean the pipes.

     TED
           Pipes? What are you talking about?

     DOM
           You jerk off before all big dates, right?
           Tell me you jerk off before your big dates.

Ted just stares at him.

                        DOM (cont'd)
                 (incredulous)
           You don't jerk off before--?! Are you
           crazy?! That's like going out there with a
           loaded gun. No wonder you're nervous!

Ted considers this.

                        DOM (cont'd)
           Think about it: After you've had sex with a
           girl and the two of you are laying in bed,
           are you nervous?

     TED
           No.

Dom shrugs...Duh.

     DOM
           Why's that?

     TED
           I'm usually too tired to be.

Dom makes a game-show BUZZER sound.

     DOM
           Wrong. It's because you ain't got the baby
           batter in your brain any more. That'll fuck
           with your head, that stuff will.

     TED
                 (starting to believe)
           Huh.

     DOM
           The most honest moment in a man's life is
           the five minutes after he's blown a load.
           That's a medical fact. And it's because
           you're no longer trying to get laid. You're
           actually thinking like a girl. They love
           that.

     TED
           Jesus Christ you're right.

     DOM
           You bet your ass I'm right. You don't go
           out with a loaded gun, you empty the
           barrels!

     TED
                 (shakes his head)
           Holy shit, I've been going out with a
           loaded gun!


This theory is taken out of comedy movie, but the point is still valid.  Masturbating does make you more calm and relaxed.  In fact, some people say it helps them go to sleep.  This theory says that you will feel more calm and relaxed.  So, when you approach women, you will not feel nervous, and won’t do anything stupid thus aiding in the attraction process.
Seinfeld Abstinence Theory
In an episode from Seinfeld, George quits having sex because his girlfriend contracts mono.  Now, George turns his focus to learning and turns into a genius.  Sex now becomes less of a distraction for him and he’s able to focus his thoughts on other more productive things.
What can we take away from this idea?
Well for one, the abstinence from sex does NOT decrease distraction.  In fact, it amplifies it.  My personal experience dictates that when I’ve got 4,5,6 days without release, it becomes impossible to not feel that immense buildup of sexual tension and horniness.
So, if it’s always going to be a distraction, wouldn’t it be best to simply “deal with” this distraction? Not necessarily.
Ejaculation On Dopamine Levels
I once watched a video on methamphetamine and dopamine levels in humans and how that whole process works. 
Basically, dopamine is a reward agent for our bodies.  By that I mean that it’s a chemical that fires off in the nervous system that makes you feel happy, euphoric, content etc etc.  Here’s the formal definition of dopamine:
a monoamine neurotransmitter found in the brain and essential for the normal functioning of the central nervous system
Dopamine has many functions in the brain, including important roles in behavior and cognition, motor activity, motivation and reward, inhibition ofprolactin production, sleep, mood, attention, and learning.
To make this simple to understand, think of dopamine as a unit of happiness.  This is how the video on crystal meth and dopamine explained it to me.  An expert professor in the study of dopamine and the human nervous system explained that, “Say eating a cheeseburger realeases one unit of dopamine into the nervous system of the body and an orgasm releases 2 units of dopamine into the body.  To put that in comparison, one hit of crystal method introduces 2,000 units of dopamine in comparison.”
Essentially, the professor was trying to say that’s why crystal meth is so addictive.  So, DON’T DO IT GUYS! J
But, back to my main point.  When you have sex, and have an orgasm, dopamine is released into the body.  It reinforces that the body “likes this” as one of humans main hard-wired desires is to procreate.  So, if you meet this need, your body rewards with a huge release of dopamine.
On the reverse side, when dopamine levels are depleted, it creates an adverse effect on other levels of the nervous system that need it to function properly.  A study published by the American Journal of Psychology showed the effects of low dopamine levels on its male volunteers.  These male volunteers deliberately had their dopamine levels depleted over a 42 hour period.  During the timeframe, these normal, socially healthy males experienced signs of obsessive-compulsiveness, thought disorders, social anxiety and depression.
Since ejaculation (masturbation) releases dopamine, I think it’s safe to say that too much release can lower dopamine levels and may have an adverse effect on your lifestyle and drive to attract women, but also to achieve and be productive.
My Theory In A Nutshell
 Motivation is a huge part of becoming an alpha male, being sexually active, and attracting women.  Some days you feel more motivated that others.  But, there seems to be a clear relationship between lack of motivation, and masturbation.
You may disagree with my opinion.  You may take the argument that masturbation relaxes you and essentially makes you “care less” and give off the alpha vibe as a result.  Please, feel free to comment and post.  I’m in search of truth just like anyone else.
In my personal experience masturbation gives off a false reward thus losing motivation in pursuit of the “real deal”.  This tricks the body into thinking that it is giving off alpha male qualities when in fact it’s giving off beta male qualities.  In effect, it’s a vicious cycle.
 Masturbation= less motivation= less real sexual intercourse
Less Frequent or No Masturbation= more motivation= more sexual intercourse
After examining the above evidence I’m going to personally conclude that masturbation is best on a 7 day cycle.  No more than once every 7 days.  The concept is that I masturbate only 7 days.  If I have sexual intercourse within those 7 days, then great.  But, if I don’t, then I can “relieve myself” on day 7.
Feel free to contribute to this post.  Has anyone else experimented with this concept?  Give details!
To Your Success,
Brittan Benz